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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Canada board fight?
I just checked an old post I responded to and saw mention of a fight on this board that caused many of our regulars to go to a private board? What happened? Where is the private board, is it on the Nest?
If you know but don't want to post the details publically, can you PM me?
Re: Canada board fight?
It started with me I guess. I didn't announce my pregnancy on here for personal reasons but discussed it on other boards. One day there were a few posts about privacy and also about what you find when you search your username in google. A few minutes later some posters decided to link to posts on other boards where I discussed being pregnant.
There was mucho discussion around it. I stayed out of it but it did get heated and lots of names were called. The mods were involved, posts were deleted and then a bunch of people decided to leave and go to an already created private board so that they could have some privacy (since the Nest is very public).
Obviously I am not on said private board. Some posters post on both boards, some have never come back.
I don't know where the other board is either, but I do know that some of the regulars also still post on other boards.
I think the fight was silly, since we are all adults, and it is the internet, but whatever. And private board or not, you are still posting on the internet. If you don't want people to know your stuff, either don't post it at all, or keep it vague so as to hide your identity.
I just wish this board would pick up a bit again, its been so dead here lately!
ETA: Jen&Joe, I am not trying to flame you in any way. You should not feel obligated to post your life on this board or any other board. We would have found out you were pregnant or had a baby at some point, and since we aren't friends in real life on this board for the most part, not announcing a pregnancy shouldn't be a big deal. Getting offended by something like that is childish IMO
Yep, there's a private board. I'm not on it. I've been banned because someone doesn't like me. **Insert eye roll here**
Very very silly indeed.
I think a lot of us also had babies around the same time and have much less nesting hours in the day
ETA: Okay, my eye roll comment was just as silly and immature. I just find the whole thing ridiculous and the episode was blown WAY out of proportion. Kumbaya folks...
I think this is likely the best explanation as to why it's gotten so quiet. I have never been to, nor have I ever been invited to this private board. Which, if I'm being honest, ticks me off a bit as I have always felt llike I was pretty neutral when stuff like scraps and name-calling go on here. I really enjoyed the banter here and, even the occassional heated discussions. I am really sorry that folks left. It gives me the sads.
Puppies and rainbows, puppies and rainbows, puppies and rainbows...
The whole calling out of Jen not sharing her pregnancy on this board was super mean spirited. I hated the "callout" of it all. Like I said, it was totally mean-spirited and none of anyone's business IMO.
I also had a personal experience with my posts put out IRL and that is when I pretty much left the board.
I think that some of the high frequency posters left (e.g. Pizza and a couple others), then there was the "call-out" fiasco, then lots of people had lots of babies and now the board is DEAD. It is actually quite painful to watch.
I liked that we were a fairly tight knit, polite bunch - but I also appreciated the small amount of drama that we did have. Usually we were able to express opinions and then move on. Bummer that it had to come to this.
No worries!
I think a lot of people took issue with the fact that something from another board was brought over here. I can't imagine seeing someone from here posting on Money Matters about their personal finances and bringing it over here to discuss or make fun of etc. It crossed a lot of personal lines for some people.
I know I put the info on the bump and knot and so I had no right to privacy. It wasn't about that for me. A lot of people on here saw me on the Bump and PM'd me to talk about it.
I think at the end of it all their were 2 camps. The "hahahahaha we got Jen, she is a biitch anyways" group and the "WTF this is messed up, WTH does this kind of thing anyways" group. I was firmly in the "if I roll my eyes any harder they will fall out of my head" group.
As for the board being dead. With 2 Bump boards too it is impossible for such a small group of people to keep everything active. We are spread too thin!
Wowzers.
Thats all I got
Me too. I miss the way it used to be.
Wow, how did I miss all that? I don't remember any of that at all and I'm here pretty often. Jen, I totally agree that that was ridiculous and that you had no obligation to announce your pregnancy, I can't believe our board turned into that.
It makes me sad as well, that that happened... I've been wondering for months why it died and I did consider the baby boom (being a mom myself) but I didn't think that could fully explain it because I've seen some of our regulars post on other boards. I figured there was a reason they weren't posting here, I just didn't know what it was.
Wow... had no idea about this... wonder if any of the names that I recognised in years past have wound up over on the private board.
Oh well, I like it here just fine.... yes its a public board, but I do my best to manage my privacy myself as best I can. It can be difficult, but then again my main concern is just trying to make sure that some of my more personal items that I choose to talk about on here don't some how make it back to my family (which are the folks I'm trying to keep it from).
That has happened here too. People would post something here and say something like "don't mention anything on FB" and then BAM someone posts something on FB.
Hence why I don't have many nesties on my FB.
Honestly, the reason I left did have a lot to do with the 'fight' And honestly Jen, it did start with you. When you commented on a post about cloth diapers and said "we are going with _____" then, someone paged you and asked if you were pregnant. A lot of us chimed in with I've been wondering by your posts lately and genuinely excited for you that you could be pregnant. (or at least I was) You responded with a post that was not in the least bit nice and b!tching at us all for posting your private information publicly. It was after that I was a little turned off the board. I did stay however but did not post as much. Then when the whole call out/posting your pregnancy thing happened I stopped posting. I thought that this board was pretty close and tight knit. When all this happened I realized that maybe you aren't the person I thought you were and you obviously didn't think we were friends enough for you to tell us, but you posted it publicly on another board that you were.
After a while I started to come back but I was so busy with austin while Dave was away that I didn't get on as much as I would have liked and I just recently started a new job so again, I'm not getting on as much as I would really like.
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Except, of course, when rjpickle posted her wedding pics and you then posted the link to the post on another board asking if they'd allow their groom to wear sunglasses.
Mom, why are you washing my feed in the sink?!
I didn't know about this! Thats kind of crazy. And also why I don't post pics at all. I don't even have my kids pics on FB.
BTW...nice seeing some people come out of the woodwork. I've missed you! Even though I didn't use to post much, I like reading everyone else's posts!
Perhaps it had more to do with who I didn't want to know about it and that I knew that that person would see it here not on other boards.
Yes I did do that and it was an honest question about sunglasses and how often they are used in outdoor weddings. I had never seen it before and the more I thought about it I wondered what I would do.....be all squinty or wear some shades. I can't control where the conversation went on that board and perhaps should not have posted it there knowing that that board in particular is brutally honest.
I however don't think it is the same as a regular from this board posting on another board about something and then someone bringing it back here to discuss it.
Wow, I think I missed most of this!
Now that I have 2 little ones it is hard to find time to come on here but I did like checking in with everyone. I realize that I don't know a lot of the "nesties" that are on here now and I don't really post because I am not on much.
Hopefully people (I'll try) will post more and we will get this board up and going again
I'm assuming this person is me. And I already knew you were pregnant, and was genuinely happy for you. I am not the evil spirit you seem to think I am. I was genuinely excited for you even though you didn't allow me an opportunity to let you know. Anyway, it's all water under the bridge now.
This (above) to the .T.!!
I've been pretty busy with Mia honestly...she's one clingy-diva! I went on vacation last year, came back, dead board, heard about a fight, no details were given = DEAD board.
Not that it matters *BUT* I found out Jen was pregnant on FB from seeing a mutual friend's pic from her shower...I didn't call her out on HERE or any other board as it's non of my business who she tells...I did PM congratulating & wishing all the best - which is all that should have been done if people wanted to do so. We're not BFF's but I've 'known' Jen for over 4yrs..Knot days..I think heehee Still who she tells is up to her and I would not take it personally. Just my 2 cents.
Wow! I wasn't on the nest when all that happened, but reading througha all the posts in this thread has given me a headache from rolling my eyes. lol
The internet is a funny place and make people do crazy things.
I'm a newbie on this board, and I do see it as very quiet, however, not getting on here a lot, I like that I don't have to page through post after post just to catch up
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You know, I've never claimed to know anyone very well on this board but the behaviour, the calling out, the .... well, the everything of it all made me extremely uncomfortable on the nest/bump and while I have posted some on various boards (and I poke in here every now and then) I have mostly found another website that I've felt to be a more comfortable place to be.
I don't know. I'm only posting now to basically give a head-nod to the familiar names of the few who have been friendly to me in the past.
Edit: And no, I'm definitely not a part of the "private board club", either. Didn't even know there was one
And this is why I only come on here once a month.
I can't believe people have nothing better to do than be mean spirited!
I apologize on on behalf of the human race for this idiocy.........honestly!
But I do wish the Canadian board was a little more busy
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