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Marriage/Relationship Book Recs
We are definitely going through a rough patch and I am trying to find some really good relationship/marriage books - any recs??
Thanks!
Re: Marriage/Relationship Book Recs
Oh LOL, my bad! From the siggie I thought you were still engaged. Ooops. Well, lots of people say the first year of marriage can be one of the toughest. I hope you are able to convince him to come onboard with counseling. Would he agree to like 6 sessions to start off?
Our first year/18 months were really rough. I still don't like thinking about that time. Honestly I'd go to counseling alone if he won't go. Plus a counselor would have some good book recs.
I've heard good recs for authors Harville Hendrix or Linda & Charlie Bloom. I'm pretty sure they have a secular, not religious perspective.
There's an organization here in Dayton called Marriage Works! Ohio. They have some links & resources. I think they're a faith based group that gets public funding but they don't seem to be overtly religious.
http://trustmarriage.com/
I don't have any recos but just wanted to say that every good relationship has its rough patches so you're definitely not alone. The people that say or appear to have a perfect relationship are lying and putting on a facade :P. It seems once you're married or have been together long enough you argue over the stupidest things lol
. I'm not sure what your issues are but the fact that you recognize that there are problems and are willing to try to resolve them is a step in the right direction.
Maybe you can also XP to the TIP board? Sounds like this might fall under that topic and the ladies there might have some ideas?
Good luck and remember we're here for you
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I would try the Relationships board too. TIP is a pretty regular group and the posts don't seem to be TIP-focused so much. Seems like lots of relationship questions from people who aren't part of that group are going to the Relationships board. Maybe lurk a bit and see which one suits you better.
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An Affair Proof Marriage
The name sounds a little odd but the book is wonderful. We actually read it before we got married and it really changed the way we looked at relationships. His parents read it after we did and I can see a difference in them. No matter where you are in your relationship now, it's worth a read.