Told the family this weekend ( vent) PR

sarbar212 · June 2010

I told my family that we are pregnant and mom and dad are very excited and my whole family also!

Well this morning my sister gives me a call and we are talking and she tells me had to tell me something and I said ok my heart shank. Well she decided to tell me that she and her husband are about to start trying but I'm not trying to sound selfish but I would like to enjoy being pregnant myself and not have anyone steal my thunder. I'm excited for them but really my Dh told me that he knew she was going to do it this to us. I love my sister but she can be very selfish and it tends to piss me off.

I just wish she quit being so selfish

Vent over

TheMrsR · June 2010

First, yay for telling the fam and having them be excited!! I'm glad it went well

Second, boo to your sister. I'm sorry you think she's trying to steal your thunder. Who knows why people do things. She's probably been wanting to have kids for a while and now that you're preggers she's extra eager. Or maybe they've actually been trying for a while but haven't actually told anyone. Or maybe she just thinks it'll be really fun to be pregnant with her sister and for your kids to be super close in age. Next time you talk to her, try telling her how you feel. She won't know if you don't tell her. She might not decide to wait until your done because, quite honestly, it's not fair to ask anyone to not have kids until you're done being pregnant but at least she'll know how you feel.

marsh127 · June 2010

I ditto Carrie. I know it must bother you because you wanted to have a baby for so long, but try not to let it bother you. This is a happy time for you. And anyway, it could take her a good six months or more to get pregnant and by then you'd be pretty close to the end of your pregnancy (or already have given birth).

stbmittleman · June 2010

I'm glad everything went well with telling your family. I have to say though, as someone who (not directly) has been accused of "copying" someone by getting pregnant, I would just take a step back if I were you and do like the girls suggested and talk to her a little bit more about her desire to TTC. DH and I waited because he wasn't ready, then when we were both on board with getting pregnant, we decided to wait until after our trip to Europe. My cousin and I briefly talked about our plans for having kids, but I didn't know they were actively trying and was a little surprised when she got pregnant. Needless to say, if she had told me that I couldn't get pregnant or that she was upset with me for getting pregnant because it was her time, I'd be beyond angry and would probably not talk to her for a very long time. I'm not sure how close you are to your sister and if you talk to her about TTC, but her and her hubby may have been ready to start trying and it had nothing to do with you or maybe she looks up to you and thinks if you guys are ready then they should be too. I totally get where you are coming from, I have a sister that likes to steal my thunder too, but this isn't something you can call dibs on. Try to think of the positive, you can be pregnant together and your kids could be close growing up!!

jenth · June 2010

I would be upset too!!!

But, if you had kids around the same time, they'd have playmates... My family always got together with one uncle and his family, for birthdays and stuff. They were all a little bit older and we were younger but we loved playing with them while the parents talked...

Jap-rish Wedding · June 2010

I'm getting the impression that your sister has a history of trying to doing things that make you feel like she's trying to outshine you (maybe?), but I would really try and not to take this one too personally. Think about the fact that your baby might have a cousin close in age. That could be a lot of fun and a bonding experience for you and your sister.

sarbar212 · June 2010

Jap-rish Wedding:
I'm getting the impression that your sister has a history of trying to doing things that make you feel like she's trying to outshine you (maybe?), but I would really try and not to take this one too personally. Think about the fact that your baby might have a cousin close in age. That could be a lot of fun and a bonding experience for you and your sister.

this is true and my sister is the so called "Princess" of the family and this would be baby # 2 for them. I haven't even thought of the playmate deal that would be pretty cool and bring us sisters back together! I have been very hormonal!

Thank you for letting me vent!

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