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Already in a rut.
DH and I are in a rut, I think. We have been working a lot since we got back from HM almost two weeks ago. We have been trying to get me moved in and it's been stressful. Our house is soo messy it looks horrible. He spent today cleaning and I cleaned some after I got home tonight from work and I will finish tomorrow. My daughter is going to MIL to be watched so I can really get this placed cleaned and what not.
Well we have been fighting lately, well more like nit picking each other and that upsets me. So with everything I haven't been in the mood. It's been two weeks since we have done anything sexual. This really upsets me. I told him on Sat that I want some romance and maybe that will help my mood but nothing.
He likes to play which is ok, but I don't want him to tickle me or do something silly to try to get me in the mood. I don't know what to do since I have already told him what I want, what I need to get back in the mood, but it's like that upset him and I hurt his manhood or something. His way of showing love is being silly but I KNOW there is a romantic side to him bc he has showed it many many times. I just don't know what to do to get out of this rut.
He did say that we will start having date nights 1st, 3rd and when there is 5th weekends, that's when my daughter goes to my XH. But we are kinda broke right now since the wedding and HM and just trying to get back on our feet. It's been a lil hard but he has been in mood but I'm just not turned on by him right now.
What should I do?
Re: Already in a rut.
What about giving each other a massage at the end of the day? That always works for us. I gave HH one yesterday after we tore out a huge bush beside our garage. I got one in return and then things got steamy =] lol
The five love languages may be something that you could read to help you.
I know this sounds crazy but put yourself out there even if you are not feeling it if you do sometimes that will help flip the switch. Touching and being near each other even when you don't want to can sometimes help. When I am feeling that way even when I don't really want to kiss him I will and I will work at making it a deeper more meaningful kiss even when I am thinking I really don't want to and it will flip the switch in my head and then I will want to do more. When you are feeling overwhelmed with the house I am sure that has a lot to do with it and the I hoped I was gonna have a baby but we aren't you might be in a bit of a mourning period for the loss of what you were hoping for. When something you want doesn't happen your heart hurts. You will get back into she swing of things. I am sure of it! Hang in there Hugs