When did you send thank you cards??

melissjp007 · June 2010

Just wondering what the time frame is for this???

We got married on April 10th, and my mother is appauled at the fact that I have yet to get around to writing thank you notes. My summer has been pretty busy thus far, and I just don't think I will be able to squeeze them in for another month or so. Plus-- I just receievd a thank you card this week for a wedding that I attended last July!

What's the ettiquette on this? And when did you guys get around to sending yours out??

PunkyBooster · June 2010

The week after we got back from the HM. So we got married on 11/14 and everyone had TY notes by 12/15.

Etiquette says you have a year, but I personally frown upon anything later than 4-5 months. I mean, how much time does it take to write a simple thank you note? Seriously?

MrsC968 · June 2010

Even though "they" say up to a year, I think by 6 months (and honestly it really should only be a few months) they should be out.

I had mine mailed by the 3 week mark. I wrote them all out as soon as we got back from our HM.

Buckeye608 · June 2010

We had our out by 2-3 months. Although we had a lot going on... we moved from the Midwest to Boston, DH started a new job, and I started grad school within that time frame!

We also started with our older relatives and family friends that would expect a thank you card more quickly.

I once received one about 8 months after the wedding. The wedding was in May, and we received a thank you card in like February, which was a bit late. I think timeliness is definitely important.

MrsT2008 · June 2010

we got married end of Sept 08. on HM until mid-Oct, all thank yous were in the mail by mid-November. I wrote most of them on Halloween in between trick-or-treaters

Mycrimsonheart · June 2010

We sent ours out at the 5 month mark. We had just bought a house and I had just started school while still working full time. I had mentioned it to a few people that I was embarrassed that it was taking me so long to get to them but they kept telling me I had a year. I'm still kind of embarassed about it so I'd suggest just getting them done. Have DH do his side and you do yours. They really only take a couple hours to do.

ThisKindofLove · June 2010

We had ours out within two weeks. (Granted, we didn't take our honeymoon until four months later.) I sucked it up and wrote about 10 - 15 a night for two weeks straight. My hand hurt so bad at the end of it all, but it was a relief to have it done!

bostonbaker · June 2010

I think I had ours out within 3 months of the wedding. It was a pain, but no worse than sending out Christmas cards, really. I made sure to get them out first to the people who would notice, like older relatives and friends of our parents. Try to do a few a night, and you will get through them soon enough.

reenie83 · June 2010

It took us about 2 months to get them all out.

CrysW08 · June 2010

I wrote out most of mine during the two days after my wedding (we didn't leave for our honeymoon until about a week later) because I didn't want people to think I was rude. You should try to write a few every night or something, I find it hard to believe you're so busy that you can't take a couple of minutes to do that.

lifeandkitchen · June 2010

I wrote all of mine within 4 weeks of the wedding. But I have a friend who got married last July and still hasn't sent hers out. She claims that you are supposed to have a year... I dunno... I would stick to sooner rather than later!

MandahGirly · June 2010

I got married the week before you - and we just have about all of them mailed out - I lost a few addresses so I'm in the process of getting those out - But the bulk of them got mailed out maybe 3 weeks ago?

jackieo1309 · June 2010

I think the etiquette rules technically say one year but I wouldn't wait longer than 6 months. I think ours were out by 3 months.

smal18 · June 2010

We had all of ours out within a week after the wedding, but we didn't go on our honeymoon right away. I felt awful if I let more than a few days go by after receiving a gift without sending a thank you. We sat in front of the tv for an hour or two a night, one person writing the thank you, the other addressing the envelope, and it was done really fast.

I've heard 3 months is ok, but it looks like other people are saying 6 months to a year. Also, I noticed when a few months went by without a thank you for a gift we gave for a wedding last year. If I'm remembering correctly, all other wedding related gifts we've given, we've gotten thank yous within a month.

I sound way high maintenance in this post.

SocialWorker2B · June 2010

CrysW08:
I wrote out most of mine during the two days after my wedding (we didn't leave for our honeymoon until about a week later) because I didn't want people to think I was rude. You should try to write a few every night or something, I find it hard to believe you're so busy that you can't take a couple of minutes to do that.

Dittpo.

My wedding was on Saturday and I think everyone had theirs by the next Saturday (and this was over the Labor Day weekend).

I also started school two days before the wedding but it's wicked rude not to send them.

A year?! Bullsh!t. I say a month at the TOPS.

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