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WWYD?
I'm always confused about life, and I plan too much. I'm trying to relax, but it seems we have a major choice to make probably in early 2011, maybe a little later depending on what choices end up being reality. We have:
1. stay here. This means dealing with having our jobs far apart and moving somewhere more central to shorten my commute (also means paying more for rent b/c of this, and I'm only willing to move if it's close to public transportation b/c I am scared that I will die on the beltway - irrational maybe)
2. Move to Denver where DH could relocate. His salary would stay the same, I might not find a job directly related to my field, but could probably find something at least related to research/statistics that would use my background. If I got a big paycut (which is likely if I got out of my field), we'd still do good b/c the cost of living is lower and there are actually nice houses for under 300K!! Plus, a driving distance from family.
3. Move to England for 3 years and then try to get to Denver after that. housing would be paid for, I probably wouldn't be able to find a job worth working. We could use the 3 years to try to have a baby and if that worked out I could stay home with it. When I get home I'd have a 3 year gap in employment (my one thought is to offer myself as an independent consultant/business to my previous employers and see if I can get a little bit of work that way to stay in the field).
Obviously these are all better for DH's career than mine, but I'm ok with that. He makes more moolah, has better benefits, and more stability. And I have baby fever and know that by staying here if I had one a daycare provider would end up seeing any baby more often than I would.
Re: WWYD?
Ashley & Josh ~ The Reef Resort ~ Grand Cayman~ May 15th 2010
LOL, I'm not sure you'll die on the beltway during rush hour as traffic is soooo slow moving!!
I'd go for option 3 as well.
I vote for #2 out of selfish reasons because then when (if) we move there I'll have more friends! Hahaha!
I think #3 would be an amazing experience. It sounds like just getting out of your current situation would be best no matter which one you choose between 2 & 3.
Good luck! Believe me - I understand how frustrating situations like this are.
I also vote #1 for selfish reasons
But I know you will be happier with #2
#3 will be a change (which is always scary) but I think great things can come out of that experience
I'd do #3 in a heartbeat! Not only would it be a great experience and give you a chance to start your family, but England would be the best possible country since you at least speak the same language.
I'd love to live anywhere in Europe, but 3 years with a language I don't speak would probably make me homesick.
Good luck on your decision, either way I hope you guys do what makes you both happy!
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