Pain during sex....

laneygirl_wc · June 2010

For the last year I have had pain off and on in my abdomen. The doctor thinks that it's IBS and I'm on a pill to help me. The pill helps but there was a time when every time I had sex it hurt. Often times I would cry it hurt so bad. I hardly have any pain now but I'm afraid to have sex for fear that the pain will come back and it's definitely affecting our sex life. My husband is very understanding but I feel bad because I'm not wanting to have sex at all! We've only been married for 2 years!

I've also been wondering if maybe I need to switch the BC that I'm on. My gyno told me the stuff that I'm on should help with libido but it hasn't been and I've been on it almost a year!

Does anyone have any ideas to slowly start to spice up our sex life and try to bring it back to how it was when we first got married? Also, is there anyone on BC that really likes what they're taking and wouldn't mind letting me know what it is? I am at a complete loss of what to do and I've cried a handful of times over this. Any help I would greatly appreciate it! Thank you everyone!

megd06 · June 2010

You need to relax--being tense will make sex hurt more, plus make it harder to get in the mood to enjoy it in the first place.

Most bcp's will affect your sex drive--I went off them entirely for that. I've recently started charting, and it seems to work well. FertilityFriend.com offers free programs to enter your temps, plus online (free) courses to show you how to do it. the GP board is also helpful in that area. If you want something more reliable, I know alot of the girls on here use IUDs and love them, they don't usually interfere with the sex drive.

HTH.

agoodse · June 2010

My doctor recommeneded a therapy that will help with this. It involved using different sized dildos, by yourself, working your way up, in order to dissensitize your body to the size/pain. She mentioned the fact that pain can occur when you don't anticipate it, so this therapy helped people like that. I never got a chance to try it, but you might ask your gyno about any kind of inflammatory infection which can also cause pain during.

theaterchica83 · June 2010

I was on the depo shot after my daughter was born in 2006. When I got into a serious relationship with my fiance (now husband) I noticed alot of pain during and after sex. Talked to my gyno and a urologist since I was also getting lots of UTIs. Turns out the depo really dried me out down there. My skin was so dry it had tiny cracks that would get infected. I stopped all BC so my hormones would get back on track. I used some premarin cream my doc gave me (usually for ppl going through menopause) and it helped re-hydrate down there till it got back to normal on its own. Now, pain is all gone and everything feels alot better. The only problem now is finding a BC that won't jack up my hormones again. DH knows he has fertility issues so we are not too worried but I would still like to be on the safe side. Just a thought though as to what the pain might be from...

LizzyBlueEyes · June 2010

Sorry you have to go through that! Have you ever looked into other things besides IBS? Something like ovarian cysts and endometriosis can cause some of these symptoms also. It is hard because with the abdomen you can get a lot of referred pain. I would talk to your Dr. or Gyno to see if it could be something different that just IBS.

laneygirl_wc · June 2010

I have looked into other things besides IBS. The last three months or so I've went to the hospital to do different tests (gull bladder, endoscopy, etc) and everything has come back normal. I have to go get my yearly pap done next month and I'm trying to decide if I want to try going off BC completely. I'm hoping my hormones will go back to normal because I'm wondering if that's possibly the reason why I have no sex drive. My husband and I are not ready to try conceiving yet but also at the same time, if it happens that would be great too.

I also never thought of being really super dry down there. Every time we have sex I do have to use a little lube but I never thought about being really dry. That might be something I need to look in to. I know if I can get the pain taken care of and get my libido back in check, then we should be back in business!

davessamantha1991@yahoo.com · June 2010

i had this same problem my doc said it was a yeast infection went on the med was fine for two weeks then it was back we did this for over a year finally i took my self off bc and it went away till about a week ago and the pain is back. in my case its not that i don't want to have sex its that im so afraid of the pain. so i hope all goes well and you get a solution soon!!

travhannah · June 2010

Hi. I am on LoEstrin 24 Fe... it is the 4th BC I tried and the first that didn't make me horribly sick. I would DEFINITELY recommend it.?

jane6672 · June 2010

I'm on LoEstrin 24 FE too, and I love it. It's the only BCP I've tried, but I've never had any dryness, reduction in libido, or any problems like that.

KatiethePiano · June 2010

I have IBS, and I occasionally get pains exactly like that when I have sex. Gas X or some other gas relief medicine helps A LOT.

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