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help initiating sex!
I need some help! We've been married about 1.5 years and are having trouble.
Our sex life is bad and my husband wants me to be more sexual in the bedroom. He feels that he always initiates sex and that he always does things to me and I never do anything back to him. We haven't had sex in about 2 months.
I am very shy and insecure and it's hard for me to initiate. Also he's very angry about his job and that's also a problem.
I know how important a sex life is for a marriage and he's talking about divorcing because of this. I love him and don't want to end our marriage.
I have started seeing a counselor for help. There has neve been any form of abuse or infidelity on anyones part.
Any advice? Help!!
Re: help initiating sex!
I there a reason why you're so shy and insecure with your husband? Are you unsure about what to do? have you tried reading some books and becoming more knowledgeable about your body and sex in general?
talk to your counsler about being shy. maybe he/she can help you out there. talk to your H if hes not understanding of to why its hard. then this could be a problem to. is he doing the counseling to?
my fi and i had a rough patch that lasted about 6 months ( no sex at all). but he was very understanding and was willing to not even bring up having sex untill we could work out whatever was bothering me.
hope everything gets better. good luck!!
I understand your situation!
Im not completely shy but when it comes to sex it can be hard & it shouldnt be.
I would recommend couples counseling. DH & I have FINALLY started couples counseling I think it will help we have been married much longer then you if you can get your DH to go you can both learn what is going on & how each of you think. I liked this book: http://www.amazon.com/Five-Love-Languages-Heartfelt-Commitment/dp/1881273156 . My friend started this blog some of the stuff is pretty good too: http://showupnakedwithfood.blogspot.com/
Hang in there remember your not the only one out. I'm here for ya if you need anything!