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Spent night at SIL's
I don't know if you remember but a little while ago I was asking about the pro's and con's of living with in-laws because DH wants to live with his sister if we sell our house first before finding one to buy. (BTW I think he's ok now with staying in an apartment, yay!)
We stayed at SIL's last night because the way to get to work for DH would be the same and he can test out rush hour traffic. It will take him longer to get to work from her house but it's the same highway, etc.
Anyway, ok, definitely NOT going to live there even temporarily. I have to say, I think I feel much more comfortable around SIL now and I think she would leave us our independence as much as she could, but... no.
We would have absolutely no privacy. You can hear everything, even with the doors closed, and the guest bed makes a LOT of noise, haha! Just rolling over is a production on the bed. And since she only has one kid, he's spoiled (not a bad thing) but I would get my fill of Scooby Doo and the Cyber Chase (the title is something like that). His fav movie... that he watches over and over, and monopolizes the tv with.
Plus the internet is dial up... between all that I think I would go absolutely nuts. I'm a very independent, private person and not having privacy for days or weeks- I would be so so cranky. And I have a feeling the whole thing would put a strain on DH and me- we do fine now but the no privacy would be really, really hard.
Re: Spent night at SIL's
We really stayed there to try out rush hour, I think I had convinced Dave that it wasn't a good idea before that. But this just kind of sealed the deal.
Definitely not! And at least we're in agreement on it.
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We're selling it hoping to upgrade in a buyer's market while the rates are low. It's in a bad location for both of us, for work. When I bought it I worked East of Pittsburgh and drove 20 minutes of back roads to get there. I now work north of Pittsburgh and traffic is bad for me- on a toll road that is constantly under (bad) construction. I get to work at 6:30am to avoid the traffic and that takes 35 minutes. But the drive home has been an hour and 15 minutes recently...
Plus, for me, I got into a very bad accident in the construction in January. I probably slid on black ice- all I know is my back end went out and I was in a cattleshoot with no room to maneuver so I hit the left concrete barrier, then the right concrete barrier, and the wheels were gone so the whole bottom of the car slid and ruined everything in the engine, etc. Luckily nothing broken but I was really sore and black and blue- that's kind of prompted me to NOT want to drive it anymore.
For Dave, I bought the house by myself, and he has always hated his commute to downtown Pittsburgh.
We're also looking for a bigger kitchen (mine is soooo tiny and we haven't even taken most of our wedding gifts out of boxes because we don't have room for them!), and just bigger rooms in general maybe. Our band practices in the basement so we lost that space, and are looking for something with a room that we could use for the band and still have some type of family room or something.
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This is my issue too, so I know how you feel. Even in homes where there is privacy, I could never live with someone else. I just like my space. I like to come home and not feel obligated to have a conversation if I don't feel like it (besides with DH of course) and be cheery all the time. I just could never live with someone else. I realized that in college. Lol.
I completely understand I sounded like a complete *** it came out the wrong way:( Sorry
I completely understand I sounded like a complete *** it came out the wrong way:( Sorry