POLL: waiting to get engaged

AustinBride06 · June 2010

This poll was inspired by a dear friend of mine who is frustrated that her BF doesn't want to get married yet.
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Jess.O · June 2010

At the time, it felt like I was waiting for so long. However, we weren't those people who were dating for 10 years or anything. (Nothing against those who do!) I had graduated from college and we moved across the state together. Things were great so I didn't understand why he was waiting so long. It turns out, he didn't want to be married without a full time job (he was still in college). We got engaged when he had about a year of school left and got married the summer that he graduated. (That makes it sound like he was really young...He wasn't. He was on the extended college plan. Stick out tongue

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Mrs.Purdue · June 2010

he waited 7 years - that was about 3 too many in my book and ultimately put me in a position where it was "$hit or get off the pot". I had already made arrangements to stay at a friends house for a weekend while he moved his stuff out because I was THAT tired of waiting, when he finally popped the question on my birthday (the deadline).

it makes me sad to think that I had to give him an ultimatum and i really don't like thinking about it. =(

gwynnetx · June 2010

we dated for 2 years before he (was forced to) pop the question. turns out, he was really nervous. he had planned a dinner downtown and an evening at a comedy club, but then a mutual friend from out of town called right when he had suggested getting a horse and buggy ride. "oh hey! i'm in town! can we meet up?" perfect excuse for getting out of it! so we spent the rest of the evening catching up with the friend. that was in feb. in july, his parents on their way to visit from out of state, so we were frantically cleaning the house. my point was that if were going to get engaged, this would be perfect because we could announce it to both sets of parents at the same time. he couldn't fight that logic (or the fact that i was really insistent), so he proposed with the vacuum hose in hand. i think i was holding a bottle of windex and a paper towel. (no romantic stories to pass on for me!)

gwynnetx · June 2010

we dated for 2 years before he (was forced to) popped the question. turns out, he was really nervous. he had planned a dinner downtown and an evening at a comedy club, but then a mutual friend from out of town called right when he had suggested getting a horse and buggy ride. "oh hey! i'm in town! can we meet up?" perfect excuse for getting out of it! so we spent the rest of the evening catching up with the friend. that was in feb. in july, his parents on their way to visit from out of state, so we were frantically cleaning the house. my point was that if were going to get engaged, this would be perfect because we could announce it to both sets of parents at the same time. he couldn't fight that logic (or the fact that i was really insistent), so he proposed with the vacuum hose in hand. i think i was holding a bottle of windex and a paper towel. (no romantic stories to pass on for me!) we got married a year later.

gwynnetx · June 2010

okay, i go back to correct verb tense and to add that we were married a year later, and i end up posting twice. deleting is beyond question as my time has expired. apparently, the time is less than 10 seconds. sorry!!!

balihaigirl · June 2010

we were together for 2.5 years and he had no desire to get married - he was even talking about buying a condo with his best friend in san diego. i was NOT happy and moved to austin over it. 4 months later he popped the question. haha, funny men.

ThisGirlInAustin · June 2010

He proposed on our first anniversary. We'd been talking about it for several months, but I felt it was too early as soon as I realized what he was doing. He'd said at some point that he would only ever ask me once, so I said yes, but we never really actively started planning a wedding. Several months later I told him I wanted to postpone the engagement. Two years after that I proposed to him. The one that stuck was over 3.5 years into our relationship, which was actually a bit long for me, but I'm very happy with how things turned out.

FireChiefsBride · June 2010

gwynnetx:
he proposed with the vacuum hose in hand. i think i was holding a bottle of windex and a paper towel. (no romantic stories to pass on for me!) we got married a year later.

DH did something along those lines, only it was making up after a fight. I told him I wanted to wait to announce it until I had my ring, but I didn't want that to happen until after BIL/SIL's wedding that was a few months away. I only count the planned-out, romantic version as the proposal.

flymansWife · June 2010

he proposed on our 5th anniversary. granted we were 15 when we started dating so obviously those first few years kinda don't count. but i was so beyond ready to be engaged by the 3.5-4 year mark. i didn't even want a ring. i just wanted him to ask me Smile but DH was set on doing it right and since he was paying his own way through school it took him a really long time to save up enough for my ring.

we know a couple who started dating in high school. they have since passed up their 10th anniversary. if hubby had of pulled that, i probably would have kicked him to the curb! we keep telling him that he's gonna owe her a karat for each of those years Wink

ssinca · June 2010

we got engaged on our 1 year anniversary, which was perfect.

sandieleeann · June 2010

We got engaged somewhat early, but were engaged for over a year and a half.

shanwalk2 · June 2010

we had been dating for four years, 2 months when he proposed. I was suprised about the timing, but it was perfect. We were engaged for a year before the wedding.

2H2L · June 2010

I don't think we were ever "engaged" in the sense most people think - no one asked anyone. But, we discussed marriage and when we would want to get married (when we were both finished with all of our degrees) and then when we had both graduated, we were married. No stories for us to pass along either.

michelleaxo · June 2010

We were together for 8 years before he proposed. I thought it would never happen. We had already decided to get married, picked a venue, ordered STD cards, addressed them, stamped them, put them in the mail on Saturday evening. I FINALLY got my proposal at 11:00 p.m. on Sunday night Confused

ssinca · June 2010

michelleaxo:
We were together for 8 years before he proposed. I thought it would never happen. We had already decided to get married, picked a venue, ordered STD cards, addressed them, stamped them, put them in the mail on Saturday evening. I FINALLY got my proposal at 11:00 p.m. on Sunday night

ahhhhh...this would have driven me NUTS! then again, I have zero patience.

AustinBride06 · June 2010

We had known we would get married w/in 6 months of dating. At every single major holiday and anniversary I would get my hopes up for three years. After our 3rd anniversary I gave up. Figured it would happen eventually and besides, neither of us were in the best place financially. I was unemployed and DH was a waiter. We got engaged two months later, just after I accepted a job offer in Pennsylvania. He proposed when we were out looking at Christmas lights.

andrewseverything · June 2010

My husband and I knew after the first month of dating that we were meant to be together. (He claims he knew after the frist date) He took me to New York to celebrate finishing my BEd. We had been dating for 3 months at that point and my entire family expected a proposal then. He proposed one month after that, just before Christmas. I was completely shocked and started laughing and crying all at the same time. I wouldn't have wanted it to be any other way

danielle.ryan · June 2010

andrewseverything:
My husband and I knew after the first month of dating that we were meant to be together. (He claims he knew after the frist date) He took me to New York to celebrate finishing my BEd. We had been dating for 3 months at that point and my entire family expected a proposal then. He proposed one month after that, just before Christmas. I was completely shocked and started laughing and crying all at the same time. I wouldn't have wanted it to be any other way

Our engagement was very similar! I knew right away, he says he did too.

Four months after we started dating, he proposed, and it was also just before Christmas. We had a 10 mo. engagement which was a bit long, but worked out well since it was long distance the majority of the time!

jessicalily · June 2010

I am currently waiting, and the wait feels excruciating!!!

aznlily503 · June 2010

We dated for 8 years before he popped the question. The first 7 of those eight I was fine with b/c we were both in school, then I got the itch. We couldn't even talk about the subject of engagement, which made me get pretty upset. Turns out, he was planning an elopement to Bora Bora while I was hounding him with getting married questions. There's always a reason why men wait.

Jenn83123 · June 2010

It's been almost 4yrs and I'm still waiting. The subject has been talked about and we both agree we want to get married. He's just dragging his feet when it comes to popping the question. Driving me insane b/c it's not like we have anything else to wait for...own a home, good paying jobs, done college and aren't seeking further education at this point. I'm 27 and he'll be 30 in a couple months so lets get this show on the road already!!

kelly-sean · June 2010

DH and I knew that we were going to get married about 2 weeks after we met. He proposed 3 months after we met, and we got married 5 months later. We've been married about 2 years and couldn't be happier! I wouldn't have done it any other way, and I don't know if we could have dated for years before we got married. We've felt like we were married from the beginning, so waiting would have been horrible!

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