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Bridesmaid drama WWYD?
I'm in a wedding in August. The MOH has rubbed me wrong from the beginning, & it's gotten worse with each fb message. I have not, and will not, say anything to the bride about it. I have no desire to start anything between them. They are friends and that's fine.
The shower is coming up, & MOH asked if I would provide the flower centerpiece. I agreed, and she suggested we meet up to pick it out "so everything coordinates." I read this as 'I want to pick it out, and then you pay for it,' so I explained that if she could tell me the colors/theme for the shower, I could send pics when I get there, but it is too difficult to plan out errands with LO's changing nap schedule and him not being in the infant carrier anymore. I'll just have to stop by and order it when he happens to be awake or not with me. She replied with, "or we can go together!! I have some fun ideas!" This is not the first of her shenanigans, and I'm not putting up with it. From the beginning she has shown zero concern that the rest of us might be/are on a budget and don't have money to blow on whatever she chooses. I'm going to tell her that if I'm paying for it, I'm picking it out. If she wants to pick it out, she can pay for it. I'm just not sure if I should call her, text her, or send it via private fb message.
I'd like to call her, but I have a tendency to either let people run over me or get super rude. There's no in-between with me...
Re: Bridesmaid drama WWYD?
I see it as two different ways.
1) Shes truly excited for this wedding and doesnt want to miss out on planning anything, and thats why she wants to go.
2) Shes annoying, and like you said she wants to pick it and make you pay for it. (whats the fun in that for you?).
Does she check her FB regularly, or have an email? I would go that route, or just call (I am the same way about people bombarding me and taking advantage too, I need to quit being like that).
Explain to her that since this is a responsibility she gave out to you, that you will handle it from there, once she lets you know the colors/theme. After your floral appt you will send her a pic of what you purchased.
i guess it just depends on the MOH. I mean if she is truly excited about the shower and just wants to go to help you decid then that is fine. but if she wants to go to pick out it and then get your to pay then thats not fine.
do yall live in the same town??
of course if you do not know the girl that well she may not trust your "taste".
I am with C it might depend on the MOH. I know some are total control freaks and some are just very excited and even though the centerpieces are not her responsbility she still wants to go.
I would probably send her an email and just let her know your situation and that you will take care of it as you do have some tastes (well nicer words then that but you know what I mean) and that you will take care of it.