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***FBR***
I just want to say this is incredibly rude, hateful, and hurtful. Do you really feel this way? Is there some context I am missing?
Signed,
Someone who sucks, apparently
*****
10-08-2008 at 9:55 AM
 FarBeyondRubies
 Joined on 02-27-2006
Washington D.C. by way of Houston, TX
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Jaylea:
Re: ***FBR***
*tiptoes in*
I hope there's some missing context.
*tiptoes out*
First, I want to say I'm just now seeing this thread and haven't been avoiding it.
Second, yeah, I kinda feel that way, well respect to their credentils, not necessarily that they suck as a person. Its overly-harsh langauge, I'll say that, but If a student in the top 10% of his/her class from a top law school is seriously having problems getting a job, then I have to imagine something is wrong with that student socially. I cannot imagine any other reason and I interview candidates for my firm all the time (laterals and new associates). The students we reject either don't have the grades, the work ethic, or are weird. I know law firms are hiring, I get daily job lists, and am I called daily to interview people. My comment isn't nice, but it is what it is.
Also, with respect to the loan issue in particular. I think it does take an unwise person to make an $100k gamble (all that debt in hopes of a job); I simply don't think that is something a prudent person would do. But that is MY OPINION, and why I didn't go to a top law school (because heaven knows I couldn't have paid for it outright).
Third, my comments were certainly rude and to the extent someone cares what I think, I could see it being hurtful, but they weren't hateful. I don't hate anyone, least of all people who went to big name schools and still can't get jobs. I had the F word hurled at me, was called a b!tch by newbies and regulars and by that time had little patience for much of the tomfoolery in that thread, particularly the notion that there are no jobs out there for lawyers. Yes, I could've been nicer about it, but no one was being nice to me so what was the point?
I think the post calling me a b!tch indicates that I can take as good as I give, so, outside of that I don't really know what else to say.
Well, it sounds like you have qualified your original statement a bit. It seems you are now only referring to grads from top 10 schools who graduated in the top 10 percent, who want to work in big law. That is not the entire universe of law students looking for jobs. If this is what you meant in the beginning, I didn't catch it, but to be honest I didn't read the entire 6 page+ thread.
FWIW, you can be as harsh as you like. But your perspective is a little black and white. I have met with many attorneys from many sectors of the law in my job search who all suggest that this economy is really threatening job prospects for first years, qualifications notwithstanding. Someone actually told me "it's not bad, it's horrible" in my region for new attorneys. Which is why the "you suck" statement seems misplaced, not to mention, mean spirited.
Fair enough. I appreciate what you're saying and completely agree that what I said was mean. I'm not defending it, I'm just trying to answer you as honestly as possible.
My response was directly in response to her comment about folks with 6 figure debt being unemployes; in my head only folks from top schools have 6 figure debt. That may not be a correct assumption, but it is an assumption on which my statement my based. For the life of me I cannot fathom why a person would take on 6 figure debt for a non-top tier school. So with regard to my particular comment, I get that it was not clear initially what my assumption was, but what I am saying now is not a qualification, its just what I assume (incorrectly or correctly to me 6 figure debt= top school).
I don't think my perspective is any more black and white than that of those who say that families that earn over $250k and don't want to pay more in taxes or stingy or selfish.
One thing about me, on a message board, I'll certainly stoop to someone else's level. So the minute folks started acting a dam! fool with me, I returned the favor. I don't think you can really understand the context of my meaness in that post without reading all of it. But honestly, the OP should give you an idea; it set the tone for rudeness, GROSS assumptions and stupidity of the entire thread. Its a message board and I found it bit a fun to act an azz too.
I'm just getting back to this...
I will chock this all up to the fact that I didn't really read that thread very carefully, nor did I really read the whole thing. In fact, I didn't even remember the topic was about taxing the rich until you pointed that out. I understand that there may have been other emotions at play that I wasn't picking up on.
I'll let bygones be bygones.