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Just had a meltdown
As I posted earlier, I am gaining weight too quickly. I'm working out regularly but can't do anywhere near the 90 mins a day before I was pg as I just don't have the energy and I think that might have something to do with it. I'm not eating badly at all and I'm tracking what I'm eating. I went to the doctor today and was up 7lbs in 3 weeks. My normal doc was 90 mins behind schedule so I saw another and she was really concerned.
I am deathly afraid of getting back to where I was 5 years ago. If I continue to gain 2lbs a week, I'll be close to it and the doctor terrified me when she said I'll gain more in the last few weeks. I don't want to starve myself because that's not good for the baby but I'm not sure how to keep the weight gain to 0.5lbs a week now like she recommends.
I've worked so hard to get to where I was beforehand and I can't even imagine getting back to what I was 5 years ago. I just had a meltdown in front of Arek because I am super terrified. It might sound silly, but it's very hard to have worked so hard at something, only to know it might all come undone. Yes, I know I should be gaining pregnancy weight and it's all worth it, but it's coming on far too quickly. I find it unfair that my pregnant friends IRL aren't exercising one little bit and haven't gained a thing. My energy is seriously down but I'm making myself exercise and it doesn't appear to be helping.
Sorry for the whine, I'm just feeling so depressed about it all right now and so afraid.
Re: Just had a meltdown
awe, I'm sorry Caroline. Could it be that all the weight you're gaining (or some of it) is actually muscle because you are working out a lot? It's just a thought I had when I saw that you were working out a lot to try to keep your weight at a healthy level, so maybe that's a possibility?
In all honesty, what are you going to do, ya know? I mean, like you said, you can't stop eating, right? and you're already eating healthy foods and healthy amounts (not pigging out - "eating for two" etc...) AND you're exercising, which they say is one of the healthiest things you can do for you and your baby during pregnancy - so you're doing all the right things, but like you said in your earlier post, your body is just reacting differently. Hormones are going crazy right now, obviously, and that has a lot to do with it.
I guess, if I were you, and I'm looking at this objectively, I would honestly just keep doing what you're doing. I do know that you're not supposed to "diet" during pregnancy in order to lose weight, so there's really nothing else you can do if you're already doing the right things. You could be carrying a lot of amniotic fluid? who knows? I understand that you dont want to be where you were at 5 years ago, but if you plan to breastfeed afterwards, that will help a TON to get back down to your pre-pregnancy weight, and if you just make sure you're drinking tons of water, and continue to exercise, I dont see any reason that you shouldn't be able to avoid getting back to the weight you were at pre-Lucie Jane.
) Also, perhaps the doctor you saw was just trying to scare you because she didn't believe you when you told her you're eating healthy and exercising because I'm sure they run into moms-to-be all the time that just pig out and eat for two "just because." Not saying your doctor is like this, but perhaps she was a little skeptical because you had gained 7lbs in 3 weeks and obviously, she doesn't see you in your daily routine. (just a thought...)
Feel better hun, and vent all you want. I know what it's like to have meltdowns too right now, and they're not fun, whether they're about something important (like this) or not...
I totally understand Caroline. I know that you are doing everything you are suppose to do and I am not sure whatelse there is that you can do. Did the doctor give any suggestions? Maybe when you see your regular doctor you can talk to her.
I'm so sorry.
Pregnancy really does do crazy things to your body! You were fit before you got pregnant, so surely it will be relatively easy to get most of the weight off after the pregnancy. Just try not to stress about it and follow doctor's orders!
Ditto this, have you ever had your thyroid tested?
((hugs)), Im sorry!
Thanks, Ladies. It's just so hard when you've struggled with weight your whole life and have managed to keep it off for 4 years. I felt so accomplished and honestly I'm probably more afraid of what people think than anything.
I have had my thyroid tested, yes. My mum has a thyroid problem too. It's always frustrated me that I have to work out so much AND eat like a rabbit in order to just maintain my weight and honestly, it hurts my feelings when people like my bff and other 120 lb people go around complaining that they ate some cake and they better walk it off. I love food and won't stop eating it but really, 1 slice of cake and you feel fat? I get that I'm lighter than most, but I do know what it's like to be obese and have to struggle with it and it's been a constant battle for most of my teenage/adult life. I saw my mum gain too much weight when pregnant and I'm afraid of that being me too.
i wonder if maybe some of it is water weight?
also to be honest I am not positive I would be "worried" until I talked to my regular doctor. They know your history and your body.
did the other dr give your any suggestions for how to not gain that much weight?
I wouldn't worry too much right away though. I gained weight in spurts when I was pregnant with L. At one point I gained about 8 pounds in a month, and then other times I only gained 2 lbs. in three weeks. Chances are, you aren't going to continue at this same rate throughout the entire pregnancy.