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F/U to earlier vent
So my BFF says she talked to the guy and got everything out on the table. He told her he doesn't know where things are going with them right now. Then he stayed the night and they had pizza and were together all weekend. Of course I was pissed when she told me he was still there so I changed the subject.
I'm basically washing my hands of the whole situation, because she's going to do what she wants to do and I don't have the time or the patience to worry about her. Like SpceCadet said (at least I think it was you. Sorry if it wasn't), I'll just have to treat her like a drug addict and wait until she asks for help.
In the meantime, how do I handle not getting mad whenever she brings him up? I don't want to keep changing the subject when she talks about him because it will become obvious but I really don't want to hear about him all the time which she has a tendency to do. TIA ladies!
Re: F/U to earlier vent
Yes, that was me who said waiting for help.
I have a friend who goes through terrible choices in men too. I have taken the just listen tactic. I ask how she is doing but don't ask much about him. She usually volunteers the "we went to _____ this weekend" which clues me in to the idea that she is still seeing whatever guy it was.
Maybe instead of changing the subject all together, shift it to focusing upon her kids. He'll still come up as a topic, but at least that can help diffuse your grumpies maybe.