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Update (with a bit of TMI)

Hi girls!
It's been a good minute, so I thought I'd play catch up and give you guys an update. 

So the boy and I have been TTC for over a year; mind you, I had a road block or two (had to get a LEEP procedure done in Dec.). My doc suggested we get our fertility checked out since there doesn't seem to be a reason at this point on why I can't conceive (TMI: I'm very regular). So this week hubbers gets to wack it off in a cup (I've been teasing him ALL last week) and at the end of the month I get a HSG (they put dye in my tubes and do an x-ray to make sure there aren't any blockages). Meanwhile, hubbers and I have been looking into adoption. I have ALWAYS wanted to adopt (even if I could have biological kiddies), so I am SUPER excited about this! We meet with an agency this weekend (and meet with a different agency next month), to learn more. We're about 99% sure we're going this route now (especially since it could take 2 years 'til finalization), regardless of what the results of our fertility/infertility is. I've already been brainstorming all sorts of fundraisers to make this more affordable for us. Excited!!

We've also been working on our relationship with hubber's baby's mama. Her and I have pretty much always been cordial, but we've pretty much always kept it pretty basic (only call each other when it pertained to my step-son). Recently we've been getting much closer (including alcohol and tears on how we appreciate each other. LoL). And I love it. Hubbers, baby's mama and I have actually been hanging out more socially. In fact, we were out with her Saturday night (after SS's 6th birthday party) and we told her about our adoption plans and she even volunteered to write us a referral letter.

I feel like even though we're having some TTC issues, we have a lot going for us right now.

Re: Update (with a bit of TMI)

  • Hey! What an uplifting update, I am so happy for you and YH!  Please, please keep us updated on how everything goes, I've been thinking of you and wondering how things were going.  Yay as well on the connection you've made with BMama :)
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  • Oh Mariko, that's a great update! Serious props on your relationship with the baby mama - a lot of people (most, I would think) wouldn't be able to make that work, so it's so cool that you can!
  • That is a really great update!  I am really happy for you & YH (& his BM!) 

    Thanks for keeping us in the loop!  and keep us posted!!

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  • Very cool. Where are you planning to adopt from? Domestic or international? Sounds very exciting! And that's pretty amazing that you have such a good relationship with the ex. Yay for no baby mama drama! :P
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  • Thanks everyone! It's gonna sound kinda cheesy, but I didn't know I could be this happy. :o) fingerscrossed that it stays this way.

    We're planning on doing an International adoption. Our first choice is from the Philippines, since hubbers and I are both Filipino. But we've been looking at other countries too, just in case we can't do the Philippines (they have TONS of rules and requirements).
  • Mariko, I'm so glad to read this!  What a great, uplifting way to start off the week Smile  I'm so glad you're happy, and impressed that you have such a great relationship with your SS's mom - a lot of people would find the entire situation very trying, and instead, you're completely embracing it and have such a positive outlook!  Good luck with the adoption process - please keep us updated!
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  • Wow!  That's wonderful that you've developed a nice relationship with your SS's mom.  And good luck with the adoption process...and TTC.  There are many paths to parenthood as your post so aptly demonstrates!
  • Good luck on concieving,and your adoption.Its great to hear you and ss mom are getting closer.I am best friends with my kids step mom,alot of ppl think it's weird we hang out all the time,but I just tell them life is to short!! I try to get along with every one.

     

  • that's so exciting for you both!! i hope that adoption process goes smoothly for you, i  know it isn't easy.  as for TTC biological children, if you have any Q's about the testing they do or treatment cycles, etc. don't hesitate to contact me, i'd be happy to help in any way i can.  for the HSG - just take some ibuprofen beforehand and you should be good to go. i didn't have one done but i have heard it isn't bad and you just have period like cramps afterwards and the ibuprofen can help. 
  • So good to hear from you Mariko!  Congratulations on such wonderful news.  Obviously, I wish you both luck on the TTC, but it's awesome that you have already embraced the idea of adoption.  Some kids pray for a mommy and daddy, and you guys are going to make that dream come true for one lucky baby :)

    Also, props to you on your relationship with the stepfamily.  Your stepson will greatly appreciate that he has you, along with his parents to love and support him.  Both me and my hubby have divorced parents and a step-parent situation, and it is not fun.  Holidays are a burden more than joyous occasions, but we do our best just to get through it.  So I think it's great that you guys have worked it out so well.  It is so helpful to yours and your hubby's relationship, as well as with his relationship with his ex and his son, if everyone is working together as a family.  I really admire that :)
  • You know you are doing things right when everything comes together so beautifully. I imagine you'll have a BIG happy family.
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    Thanks for checking in on us with the update! I'm glad things are going well even though there were some TTC issues. Hope the adoption plans go smoothly!
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  • I'm so happy for you and your family.  Thanks for sharing!  Smile
  • Congrats on possibly adopting....I think that's awesome!

    And congrats on working on a better relationship with Steps.  It's sooooo good for the kids if you can have a good relationship.  I consider myself one of the few very lucky kids of divorce.  Just last weekend my mom, two of her sisters, my stepmom, and her sister came to stay for the weekend.  The six of us shopped together, and hung out at my house in the evenings watching movies and ordering pizza.  I absolutely love that my mom and stepmom not only "getting along," but actually choosing to spend their weekend together to make it fun for me (it was also my baby shower).

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  • I love updates like this! I'm so glad that things are looking up - I think adopting would be AMAZING, and I'm really happy that your relationship with BMama is getting closer!
  • Truly heartwarming!  I'm so happy for you.  There are many, many children out there that need loving parents and I applaud you for wanting to give that to one of them.

    Kudos to you for the BM relationship.  I've tried and it will never happen for me, but it sure would make life a lot easier on all of us if it could!  It'll make a huge difference not just for you and YH, but for your SS as well.

     

  • Great update. I was adopted at birth, and I'm a huge proponent of adoption. It can be a beautiful thing. Best of luck!
  • What a great update! Congrats and good luck with the adoption process. It is a wonderful thing you are doing. It's also really great to hear about the good relationship you have with your SS's mother -- that can be a very tricky relationship and it's wonderful that you guys enjoy each other's company. I hope you have a successful TTC journey as well. Keep us posted!
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  • Wishing you all the best with ttc and  the adoption process. It is an amazing such blessing and incredible gift of love to share.

     

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