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Sigh.... my sister
Long story short, I wish she would break up with the guy she's with. We all thought she was one weekend but no, they are still together. I don't think he's physcially abusive but I do believe that he is manipulative and with that said, mentally/emotionally abusive.
She doesn't see it and if she does, she's not admitting it. She believes they are soul mates and are meant to be together. I just don't get it and I know that nobody will be ever to get it through to her but herself. We've all told her she has lost all the drive she used to have towards life and is just not the "A" we used to know.
She was supposed to come over every Wednesday to help out with David. Now, it is nice that she comes over, it helps be out but at the end of the day, I enjoy her company and David LOVES spending time with her. At first, she used to come over at 10 am, then noon, then 2 and sometimes its closer to 4. Today she calls and said that "J" (boyfriend) tattoo appointment got pushed to 4:30 so he isn;t coming over. Their shop is literally like 5 blocks from my house. Asshat can't go to the shop 2 hours early, go forbid he actually sit at his own place of business. So, she's not coming over. He does this every freaking Wednesday. It's like he's trying to keep her from coming over here. He doesn't understand why she needs to come over every week and that she needs to "re-evaulate her priorities".
Priorities: like taking care of his two kids (yes, you read that right. She is not working right now at the shop. Instead she gets to watch his kids 24-7 this entire summer while he goes to work. She doesn't have a car and is dependent upon him to A) leave the car with her which he won't or 
drive her to where she needs to be. Or being at the shop and acting like his secretary instead of going to yoga with my mom.
I want to punch the f'kr in the face and tell him to be a f'ing man. He is or will be 30 this year. Has a three year old and a 7 year old, and my sister takes care of them, not him. Money is his driving factor in life, and that's it. He doesn't treat my sister like an equal but rather an low-life employee.
I was so livid when i got off the phone with her. Not necessarily at her, but the situation. She doesn't see how convenient it is that he keeps "pushing" his 2 o'clock appoitments back to 4 or so every Wednesday when she likes to come over here.
I swear, if I ever see him, I don't think I can hold back my emotions.
Sorry for the vent, I just needed to get it out.
I spoke with DH today but sometimes you just need another outlet before taking it out on the wrong person.
If you made it through my ramblings, thank you 
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Re: Sigh.... my sister
Ugh... I think when people you love date dumbazzes, it's more hurtful to those around the person than the actual person. The actual person at least is blissfully unaware...
I hope she snaps out of it soon; she should be grateful for a sister who's supportive as you are, and I'm sure she is and will be when this guy and her finally break up.
I made it through your entire post!
I'm sorry that your sister doesn't see the problem. I hope she sees it soon because even though you love her and don't want this to happen, I know that this is going to take a toll on your relationship.
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