March 2010 Weddings
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Does this sound b****y to you?

I got this message on FB from a family friend of ours but I'm not sure how to take it:

"Hello, Sharryn I guess I should stop saving the 'save the date' card that I received with formal invitation to follow. It looks like you are married. Best wishes."

I don't know if she's saying she never got an invitation or what. Frankly, I don't remember if we sent her one or not. It was 5 or 6 months ago! I wrote her back and said it was probably lost in the mail (I guess I could have thrown in there a "sorry you missed it") but, even if she wasn't being b*tchy, what does she expect me to do? Book her a room under my block, fly her out here and reenact the whole thing? Look at my pictures on FB if you want to know what happened! LOL 

Re: Does this sound b****y to you?

  • I think she was hurt. If I got a save the date and no invitation, I would assume the wedding didn't happen or that you realized you didn't want me there after all. For people who didn't RSVP did you assume they weren't coming or did you follow up with them? For mine that didn't RSVP I called/emailed/Facebooked them to follow up. So if you didn't do that she really might be leaning towards thinking that you didn't want her there.

    Just my opinion. You might want to message her again and say that you missed having her there. I'm not sure what your relationship is with her so it might not even really matter.

  • I agree with PP.  Do you remember sending her a STD but not an invitation?  Did you have a list of people you sent STDs to so that you could subsequently send them an invitation?  And did you follow up with those who you never received RSVPs back to make sure that they indeed received the invite? 

    If I received a STD to a wedding but never an invite, I would be hurt too.  I may not have gone about it the same way that she did but I'm sure she's upset that she thought she'd be invited to your wedding due to the STD but never received an invite.  It would probably end any kind of friendship I had with that person, too. 

     

  • imageMisa125:

    If I received a STD to a wedding but never an invite, I would be hurt too.  I may not have gone about it the same way that she did but I'm sure she's upset that she thought she'd be invited to your wedding due to the STD but never received an invite. 

    This. It is a moot point now, but like Jenny said I would message her again and apologize for her not getting the invitation. You could say you are sorry she missed it and would love for her to take a look at your photos. etc.

    This would really hurt my feelings too!

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  • I definitely followed up, which is how I found out hers wasn't the only one that got lost in the mail. She never responded when I reached out, though, and I'm assuming since we never got it back that either it was a wrong address or it's lost in la-la land somewhere. I am going to message her when I get home and can look through my stuff.
  • Good idea!

    P.S. I see your baby is due January 5th. I hope it decides to come in late December. Get that tax write off! :-)

  • imagejennylee753:

    Good idea!

    P.S. I see your baby is due January 5th. I hope it decides to come in late December. Get that tax write off! :-)

    Girl I know! I'm hoping either late December for tax purposes or New Years for free stuff. As fast as the baby is growing so far, it's a possibility :)

    As a f/u, I wrote her back and apologized for my first message, because I reread it and it sounded short and snappy which was not my intent. I then apologized for her not getting the invitation and said I more than likely overlooked the fact that she hadn't responded. I plan on calling her once I get her number from my parents.

    Thanks ladies for helping me out!

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