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What would you suggest to someone who may be facing domestic violence in their relationship. Any advice or words of wisdom to share with this person.
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As you make decisions about your course of actions, always think about what's best for you and your child (if applicable).
Contact a domestic violence shelter for advice/direction and contact a lawyer.
Take yourself and your child to a safe location. A family member or friend's house may be the most comfortable, but H may show up there looking for you. A DV shelter is the safest location because they can protect you and your child.
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I've been on both sides of the DV issue. I was a victem for nearly 2 years, and my brother has anger management issues. I was stuck in the middle last week, and as a favor to my mom, bailed my brother out of jail.
I don't have a lot of time right now, the prior advise of documents to obtain was very good.
The biggest piece of advise I can give is to have the confidence to reach out for help, so you can leave. For me, I was injured to the point I had to take a 'sick day.' Once I knew he was at work, I called my boss, and told her I wasn't really sick. She sent her retired husband over to help me pack up while my boyfriend was at work. I stayed in a shelter for two reasons, I wanted it docoumented (for restraining order purposes), and my parents were out of town.
If anyone wants to email me for more advise, encouragement, etc - my email is laura_J_Ralston@yahoo.com
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First and foremost, I would let her know that I am praying for her nonstop.
Everyone else has already shared very great advice. I guess the only other thing I would say is that ANY red flag is a red flag. Don't try to convince yourself that it's not that bad, that something only happened once, that you don't think your spouse would EVER do...(fill in the blank). Your safety comes first.
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It hurts my heart that someone you care about is facing this.
I used to use the YWCA as a top referal in my old job:
http://www.ywca.org/site/pp.asp?c=djISI6PIKpG&b=289453