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Sex drive and how to find it?
Hi everyone! It's my first post and I guess I'm just jumping right to it...
I cannot find my sex drive. Me and DH got married in April, and I think it's safe to say that our "honeymoon" period has been the driest of both our lives. I've been off the BC for almost a year now, and they say it's supposed to INCREASE your sex drive, but I'm running on empty. Once I get to it, I do enjoy it, but it's almost like his "moves" to get me into the mood are falling flat, and I'm not sure how to explain that to him. His libido seems healthy and I feel bad denying him so much. I just don't feel it! I don't even enjoy kissing like I used to. I'd rather cuddle and watch a movie.
Any suggestions?
Re: Sex drive and how to find it?
I think I would go talk with your gyno your hormone's could be out of balance since going off the BC. Also are you eating right & taking your multi vitamin's that could possibly help at least a little. I would go see your Dr since its been going on so long.
Oh an excersize that could help are excersizing?
Have you checked under the bed? In the crisping drawer of your fridge?
Seriously though hormonal birthcontrol is known to decrease libido. Who ever told you it increased it lied to you.
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Hey retard, I guess you didn't even read OP's post. She's saying that she heard that getting off BC pills increases your sex drive..which is does.
Are you and your H been fighting a lot lately?
Cuz' sometimes when we fight a lot a tend to loose
my SD also...
my sister was like this she was on BC from 15-20 and thought getting off them after she got married at 19 would help but i didn't finally she took my advise and went to see her gyno. he said that her hormones were unbalanced and just getting off the BC was not helping he put her on some kind of vitamins and hormones for about two months and ever since shes been fine. i have been off my BC for about 6 months and it hasnt help so i made an app for next friday. hope it helps sorry i forgot the name of the meds ill try to find out and get back with you!!
Well excuse me little missy, I guess I don't read these stupid S&R posts as closely as you do.
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Actually, I'm sort of in the same boat. My fiance and I aren't having as much sex as we used to. I love him, and I still find him undeniably sexy, I'm just not in the mood as often as I used to be. We went from once a day, to maybe twice a week, if that. I feel bad, and I'm wondering if a combination of stress, and guilt (for some things that happened a while ago) are all catching up to me. I love taking care of him, but I couldn't care less about being taken care of. If you figure it out, please, let me know as well. Good luck, and hopefully the going off BC helps. At least I hope. I just went off as well.
Take care.
...I think she meant she was told coming OFF bc would increase her sex drive.
I am in the EXACT same boat. Got married in April and having the same issues. Unfortunately I lost my health insurance when I got married & cannot get any now because i'm considered a liability because of my medical conditions (unless i wanna pay $500 a month for it).
If you find any vitamin/natural/whatever cure let me know! I'm desperate, and it's wreaking havoc on our relationship.
I'm seriously thinking about going to the OBGYN again -- the only reason I've not done that yet is because I spent most of 06 and 07 going to ALL the gyno's I could find in the area to figure out what was going on with me -- another issue, going off BC helped -- and not one of them could help me. I literally had to figure it out for myself. No one has tested my hormone levels.
I've tried Maca -- I'll keep you posted ifI find something that does actually work. It's to the point where I've almost forgotten what it feels like to have a sex drive -- though apparently my husband remembers!
Thank you, Sami. I'll look into this. I had been on birth control since high school, so about 11 years -- it makes sense that my hormones are all messed up.