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T&P Needed
I don't normally ask, but I could really use some positive vibes right now. It's only Tuesday and it's been a really, really tough week.
1) Yesterday morning, around 6:45 a.m. we receive a call from my MIL that my BIL was dead. She found him on the floor in his room (he lived with my ILs). He was already cold. He was only 46 years old. They are running an autopsy to determine the cause of death but a blood clot from his leg is suspect as he had been having edema and leg pain recently. He did go to the doctor several times for it but was always given pain meds and told it was due to a recent knee injury and nothing more.
2) I am fairly certain that I will be downsized at work. Ever since returning to work from maternity leave there has been a weird energy. I couldn't really put my finger on it, but something was different. It turns out that my department and my position, specifically, has been undergoing "re-assessment." Apparently, I did such a good job of ensuring productivity while I was out that it now seems that my position is no longer needed. I don't have all of the details just yet, but this is my hunch. And all of this is totally from left field. I received a glowing review in November and went on leave in late Jan. I returned part-time in March and phased back in fully in May. It was at that time that I started to have these hunches that something was going on, but I wasn't really sure what it was. I also thought that my emotions might be running high due to transitioning away from spending all day with Libby and going back to work. Anyway, I will not be surprised if I receive notice soon. I am really scared. I have been on this job for 2 years and I am the primary income provider for my household. The unemployment rate here is high and I don't know how soon it will be before I will find a new position and if I'll be able to find something that provides the income/benefits that I currently have.
So there you have it. The only other people that know what's going on with work are J and my mom so please no FB comments. I feel really broken right now and could use any positive thoughts you could send my way.
Re: T&P Needed
Oh Lori - big, HUGE hugs for you. That is a LOT to have on your plate right now!
I'm so sorry about your BIL - how's Joseph doing with it?
And I really, really hope that you're not downsized - even though I know you guys would get through it, I know it's such a scary prospect. I hope they realize how invaluable your experience is and keep you on!
Ohhh I am sorry to hear of your family's loss. A very eerily similiar situation happened to my co-workers brother earlier this year and in the same age bracket.
This really has to be hard deal with all at once. Sending loads of good vibes and thoughts to both you and Joseph.
Hugsssss
Oh Lori, I am so sorry! These are some hard times for sure. Wow, that is just tragic about your BIL. Gosh, I sure hope Joseph and your MIL are doing ok.
Have you considered being upfront with your boss? I say this because MH is going through the same exact thing. But he just doesn't have the nerve to bring it up with his boss. Its very unsettling and right now, there is nothing worse than uncertainty. I completely understand your fears.
Hang in there and I will say a little prayer for you.
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Ditto this! What a tough week for you and your family. I hope the job front hold ups - it's so hard when things at work feel "off", and based on this year I know exactly how you feel. It sucks.
Oh Lori, I'm at a loss for words over the news of your BIL
That is just devastating. I'm thinking of you, J and his family right now.
Regarding your position, wow, that is a tough thing to deal with. I really hope it turns out for the best and it usually does. Keep your head high and thoughts positive, sending you tons of vibes and BIG hugs.
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I am so sorry to hear about your BIL. Thinking of you & your family.
And sending lots of positive job vibes your way too. I am sure in their evaluation they will realize they can't live without you.
oh lori, big hugs! i am so sorry that you are going through all this. first, i am sorry for the sudden loss of your BIL. that is so tragic, esp since he sought care and something may have been missed.
second, i really hope that they don't let you go but if they do i am sending tons of good vibes that you find another job. you are such a talented, hard worker that i am sure you would be able to land another job.
i'll keep you in my thoughts and I hope that you don't get let go...
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Oh, Lori, I'm so sorry. It felt like I hadn't "seen" you around much and was wondering if everything was okay.
I'm so sorry about your BIL. I hope your family gets some answers soon.
About your job...it sucks that it seems you are in this situation because you were proactive and were able to manage your workload while being out on maternity leave. It feels like you're being penalized for choosing to be with your child. I remember the advice you gave me when the uncertainties surrounding Brian's job were finally coming into focus. I just hope that, whatever your company decides, they are upfront and honest with you and don't jerk you around. I hope your job will be saved, but I know that if it's not, something will work out and new opportunities will arise.
HUGS
Oh Lori!! I'm so so so so sorry for your loss and worry. I hope that your family will be at peace and have some closure soon on your BIL. How frustrating that he went to the doctors several times and they just send him away with meds w/out diagnosing the real problem.
Sending you HUGE hugs and hope you get some answers soon about your BIL and that your work will be upfront and honest with you rather than stringing you along. ((HUGS))
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oh my gosh! i am so sorry Lori :-(. my condolences to you and your family. that is shocking.
as for the job front, i can understand why you feel scared. i would be too. i am hoping for the best! hang in there. we're here for you.
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Lori
I am so sorry for your family's loss-sending loads of hugs and positive vibes your way-sorry that this has been such a difficult time for you right now.
Oh Lori I'm so sorry for your loss. My condolences to your family.
Can you talk to your boss about your worries? It could put your mind at ease, or end the stress of wondering?
Big big hugs to you! I'm sending tons of positive thoughts and prayers your way.
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I hope you get some closure at the service. I'm so sorry for your loss!
We had a funeral last week (MH's grandfather), and I was able to stay for some of the viewing, but LO needed a nap so I had to take him back to the house and we missed the entire mass. We weren't going to go to the burial site, as it was too far away, but we joined the family in the afternoon for a luncheon. It was a little hard for me to get closure since I wasn't there for much of it, but I will deal.
Good luck with the work issue! That is crazy! Sending good vibes your way.