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KatieBride06
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confession
if you have similar thoughts, please chime in.
sometimes i think about how much i want DH to succeed in his career and be happy & solid in what he does. i want him to be the foundation of our finances, so that we can afford for me to work doing something that i really like. and what i'm thinking i'd really like would not necessarily bring in big bucks and job security. it'd be risky and uncertain, but if we have the solid bone of DH's job then it wouldnt be as big a deal.
am i awful for that? it's just a wish anyways.
Re: confession
I feel the same way! So you definitely aren't alone. I don't think you are awful for that. DH's chosen career could provide all of that, so I would like to think he would be very happy in his position. And if it provides financial stability, then I should be able to get a job that makes me happy (and it would just so happen that I wouldn't have to worry as much about the money or the stability).
Whenever you need a wishing buddy, just let me know!
I don't think it's awful, I think anyone would take some satisfaction in being a 'kept' woman for which work is a choice and not a necessity. I don't think it'd be right if you put pressure on him to be the sole provider or pushed him to take jobs that made him unhappy in order to be in that position, but I don't think there's any harm in wishing it!
I totally agree! Katie--if it makes you feel any better, I've come out and told Dh that I'm ready to retire whenever he's ready to make the big bucks!
And I LOVE my job...but still, it'd be neat to retire and do my own thing.
If that's awful, then I'm in the awful basket with you.
I know what I'd like to do and I know that it won't bring in the big bucks. Not really.
But I don't think any of what you said is awful. You want your DH to be happy, I want mine to be happy too. But I know that what he is happy doing will bring in substantially more money than what I'm happy doing. So I want him to be happy and successful.
are you serious??! I feel bad for your husband!!!!
Just kidding, I have been on RE and TIP too much today. lol
But really it's not awful that you feel that way, I think us women are normally expeting our DH's to bring in the big bucks and have job security. I sometimes think the same, but hey if he can't or if there is not an opportunity for him to have such position I can still deal with that. I think if we wish hard enough, it would come true!!!
i am right there with you....i get aggravated with it to sometimes. i would love to be able to do pet rescue 24/7 but i doubt that would ever happen. DH loves his job but its never a steady pay check and aggravates me to death; especially since we want to start TTC. he did finally ask to be put on salary but they told him no and said they would give him an hourly increase and guaranteed 32 hours a week.
i just stop and be thankful he still has a job. he is in the construction business so i guess we are lucky he hasn't been laid off.
I don't think it's awful at all. But I also don't think it has to do with the male/female role in the way that society views it. I don't think it's because you're a woman and you want a man to take care of you... that's never the impression I've gotten from you anyways. Not trying to start drama with anyone who may have stated otherwise (I mean, may have stated that it's because you want your husband to take care of you because you're his wife)... I just think you have a passion and you want to persue it.
If having a passion and wanting to persue it is awful, than I am so looking forward to being the most awful person ever. :P