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I hate our wedding pictures
Our first choice for photographer (the ones that did our engagement pix, which we LOVE) was not available on our date. So, we booked another, really artist couple, but then the wife got pregnant and needed to cancel all her May dates. So, we had to sort of scramble for a photographer a few months out from our wedding. His style is not as artistic as we would have liked, but we thought his shots were decent.
Well, our pictures were just posted online, and I can honestly say I only like a couple of them. I don't know what I'm going to say when I have to go in on Tuesday to select photos for the album that's included in our package. I created a folder of 'favorites' that are passable and highlight key moments, and I guess those are the ones I'll go with...
I asked husband about doing a 'trash the dress' session, but more like just pictures of me and him dressed up in our wedding outfits, with our engagement photographers, but he's not too keen on getting dressed back up. He just keeps saying, "There are some things we just can't control." But I don't want to look back at our pictures and keep thinking how much I just don't like them. 
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Anyone else not happy with their pix? Are you going to do any post-wedding pictures to make up for it?
Re: I hate our wedding pictures
Can you post a link to the pics so we can have a look, a fresh set of eyes always pics out something that you don't I'm sure we can make you feel better.
We still don't have out proofs, our photographer is on vacation at the moment so when he gets back we'll get to see them.
For me it was the flowers that were a downer, we tried to fix it but yeh there is only so much you can do!
I'm sorry you don't like your pictures =[ Could you post a link like pp suggested? Hearing someone else's view usually helps.
Edit: My biggest dissapointment was our tables. They looked nothing like I had wanted and I was really upset at first. A family friend did our reception and we had talked about how I wanted everything to look, I even drew out a picture but she still did them differently. I never said anything to her though and in the end it didn't matter. I didn't even look at the tables the day of because I was so busy enjoying myself =]
I am considering a trash the dress session but it will probably just be a session by myself. DH may tag along just b/c our photog are cool people and we like to hang out with them and that way we can throw him into a couple of shots if we want.
Maybe if you sat DH down and talked to him seriously to let him know it would really mean alot to you to do another photo session. Don't whine, *** or complain (not saying that you are) but just let him know that you are really not happy with the pics that you have and would like some nice keepsakes to look back on.
on a side note....if you really don't like your pics i would not waste the money on an album and just get a DVD copy of all your pics.
My best friend and her husband weren't very happy with their wedding pictures, either. One of the bridesmaids had a really good camera and had a friend taking pictures during the ceremony and after, though, and those ones came out beautifully! Maybe ask around your friends and family and see if anybody got some really good shots that you can use for those living-room-wall prints.
I don't think you're asking to much of your DH to put on a suit and tie for an hour. I mean, dude, he's a dude. It's not like he has to go in for pro hair and/or makeup.
But that's just me. If he really doesn't want to do it, I wouldn't force the issue, either.
Incidentally, I had a couple of college friends who got out their wedding clothes a year or so after their wedding so a friend of theirs could do some "wedding shots" for her photography portfolio. They loved it because then they had autumn "wedding pictures" in addition to their real ones from summer or whenever.
Does he have to get all dressed up or could he do nice pants and shirt and tie? I'm doing a trash the dress session with my photographer and DH will be with me. He will be in some and then it will just be me. He will just were something nice that he won't mind getting wet.
Also, I agree with pp just sit him down and tell him how much this upsets you. I understand what Amanda is saying where don't sound whiny and *** or needy. Just talk to him.
On the question where you asked if we like some of ours. There are a few that didn't get taken and I'm upset about that. I can't find a great one of us where I want to just blow it up and put on our wall. Maybe when I do trash the dress we'll get a good one.
That's a bummer - I'm sorry. :-( Have you seen all your friends' photos from the day yet? I have found a lot I like from looking at other people's casual shots from the day...
I feel like there were some family pics I wanted to have done but we didn't get those shots...like DH really wanted one with his brother & SIL and their 3 kids and I'm not sure if he got to do that one by the end of the day or not. It felt like our family pics were very brief and the WP ones together were really brief, too....guys did their separately in the AM before the ceremony and the girls and I did some together at my house in the AM as we got ready...but the WP all together? We have like literally one or two shots of that and I'm disappointed in that. Everything goes by so fast, though, that I didn't really realize this until hindsight when I started to think about it...I do like the teasers I have seen so far, though...I like our photographer's style...I'm waiting to be able to see the rest - hopefully not much longer as it's been 3 weeks already but I realize they can take up to 6 or so to see the whole lot of them (they did unlimited shooting on our day).
i'm really sorry to hear that, they are such an important part of your day. can you talk to the photographer and see if you can get back the album portion of your package because you are really not satisfied?
also, if it is really important to you, i'd talk to your H more about the TTD session. we were planning to do one for fun, but especially if you are that unhappy with your pictures, you should have some pics of you guys that you actually like. that's really frustrating
we don't get our back for another week or so, but i know we will love them because our photogs were fabulous, so i can't imagine how you feel.
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Thanks for all of your comments.
The photos can be viewed online at www.expressionsstudio.com. The username is Gardner, and the password is 9341.
The ARE some shots of us that are pretty good; they're just not really what we were looking for. Because we're both artistic people, the standard cookie cutter pics just aren't our speed. You can see our engagement pics on my profile, and those we positively LOVE. Our wedding pix are sort of boring in comparision.
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I don't have a creative bone in my body, so I kind of like the cookie-cutter pics.
I looked at your e-pic, though, and I can see how the style you like is definitely not what the wedding photographer did. I hope that there are at least a couple that you are sort of happy with.
I really liked the one of you guys where you were sitting at the reception with your legs crossed while you looked over the back of the chair.
I love candid shots, though. I know they're not everyone's cup of tea.
unfortunately, our server is blocking your engagement pics so all i can see is big red X.
the one thing i noticed in your wedding pics is that it didn't appear that you guys were having fun....they did seem a little cookie cutter and poised. it did seem that the photog always picked an odd spot to do most of the pics and the background setting wasn't that great.
we refused to do poised shots....and the ones that we did do ended up silly, that is just our nature though. it probably wouldn't have mattered who was shooting our pics, we just aren't serious people when it comes to the camera.
there isn't alot you can do to blame the photog. the pics are good themselves, evidently directing people and getting them to loosen up and have fun isn't a quality of this photog.
if you really want another session and aren't happy with these, then i still wouldn't waste the money on an album and keep working on DH to do another session!!!
Bummer. Try these:
http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v473/garnet825/?action=view¤t=1x12033521.jpg
http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v473/garnet825/?action=view¤t=1x12033522.jpg
http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v473/garnet825/?action=view¤t=ACF80D1.jpg
http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v473/garnet825/?action=view¤t=ACF80D9.jpg
http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v473/garnet825/?action=view¤t=ACF80D0.jpg
I agree with you about preferring candids. I love candids because people are acting natural, and that's so beautiful to me. I'm not a fan of formal, posed because it looks and feels forced. But I think that's what this photog obviously wanted to do with us despite my requests to the contrary.
Anyway, the album is included in our contract. It would only cost more if we did various add-ons. We're just going to take the most basic album that's included in our package. We'll probably never look at it, though...
I took my dress to have it preserved, 'cuz hubby is just not into doing more pictures right now. Maybe I can convince him on our one year anniversary. ;o)
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