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Wow drama this early?

I get on facebook to see a comment on my picture of Gio and my niece from DH's aunt:

"Why cant we get to see the baby? did you forget about the rest of us?if it wasnt for facebook no one would see him....except your family!"

Ok first of all, why post that as a comment? You have a problem then message me with it. 2nd, I dont see any of them breaking down the doors to come see him. My mom is unemployed so yes during the day when DH is at work i sometimes go to her house or she'll come to mine. I also dont see DH offering to take the baby to go see his family, why does it always have to be me? Half the time i'm afraid to even leave the house with Gio bc he's usually crying. But yes now i look like the bad guy of course. I'm sure also MIL has had something to say but u know what she's going to have him 2 days a week when i go back to work so shove it. My SIL who i asked to be godmother instead of my own sister doesn't come see Gio unless her boyfriend is in school. Ugh i'm so upset this morning now, i'm really just trying to ignore it but it irks the hell out of me especially that she posted it as a comment for everyone to see. My response was basically for them to come over bc we're home all the time or to tell her lazy nephew to bring him by.

Re: Wow drama this early?

  • Aww Pammy I'm sorry you have to deal with that. That was totally not her place to comment like that. She should have called your H about it not talking to you.

        I deal with the same thing with Kevin's family I laid into one of his aunts just a week ago and told her Collin's 5 months old and I offered twice to bring him to her house and she didn't want me to because of some reason and now she's bitching because I haven't called to let her see him in 3 months well to damn bad you can call and come see him any time you want or wait better yet ask Kevin to do it. Their my family of course but i'm not going to go above and beyond for them!

     

     

       Ignore her and don't let it bother you.

  • Aww Pammy I'm sorry you're going through this. I can't believe the things some people will say (post) on FB. Good for you for telling her to get off her butt and come on over. HELLO you've got a newborn and maybe, just maybe it's hard for you to get out. Some people only care about themselves, don't worry about them!!
  • I'm sorry pammy, thats so rude of her to leave as a comment.  That kind of stuff gets to me. I hate hearing 'you haven't called me in forever' or 'i never see you'. I'm sorry but phones/emails/texts go two ways. Don't get made someone doesn't call you if you never call them either, u know? And its the same here, if you were telling them no everytime they offered to come over, then ok. But they're not making the effort either. I don't plan on going out of my way to see people more then I do now when we have a baby.
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  • Pammy I know it is hard but just ignore them! We go through the same things sometumes with my MIL. If they are not making an effort to come see yall then forget it. They should remember hwow hectic things can be with a newborn!
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  • I would have deleted the comment and then sent her a private message. That's uncalled for!!! I would tell her I don't appreciate her rude comment and if she wanted to see him she should have called. You are also recovering from having a baby. Its not your job to be parading your son from one family member to another house.
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    I would have deleted the comment and then sent her a private message. That's uncalled for!!! I would tell her I don't appreciate her rude comment and if she wanted to see him she should have called. You are also recovering from having a baby. Its not your job to be parading your son from one family member to another house.

    My thoughts exactly...and let her know that FB is not the place for comments like that either. If there is an problem, speak to you directly.

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  • That's really crappy.  I'm sorry she said all of that on facebook, of all places!
  • Aww Pammy I'm sorry the Aunt is being a B, and tell her that if she wants to see Gio she can come and visit!

  • i miss the old facebook when everyone and their mom was on it....it's just caused unnecessary DRAMA. 
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  • maybe she thinks that all of us are part of your family?? :)
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  • I agree that it was rude. Often, people that feel left out make themselves left out because they're waiting for someone else to make a move. I would respond sweet as pie "I would love for you to come see your nephew but I haven't heard from you. Please let me know when you'd like to come over. The door is always open to family" 

    How did you respond?


  • I just told her we're always home and to come on over or she could always tell her nephew to bring the baby by too. I tried to be as nice as possible and got snarky comments back. I still didn't say anything and just deleted all the comments
  • I'm so sorry you are going through this period...let alone on facebook for the whole world to see.  I can't stand it when people do that crap.  I hope things get better.

  • jenthjenth member
    Sometimes Facebook can be such a pain.  I'm sorry your DH's aunt is being a jerk about things...  And doing it publicly!
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