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No more best friends?
Flip_flops published this on FB. What do you guys think?
Re: No more best friends?
I'm sure it does happen a lot - where kids will get too close then become "Frenimies."
But, I think a best friend is important. I depend on my best friend because we've grown together over the years and remained closer than sisters. She depends on me as well. Its a reciprocal relationship thats found its balance over the years. We've gone through high school, college, marriage, babies/pregnancy together. We haven't always been happy with each other but we've always been the first call (after our husbands now) made when we're upset, excited, have news. After my m/c she dropped what she was doing, drove an hour and a half and showed up at the door with a bottle of wine and a pizza. I would do the same for her. That's why the part about the little boy just wants someone he can "always call" was sad for me
But, like Karrey said, true friendships will make their way through no matter what.
I think it's an insane article. Friendship coaches at summer camp? Teachers freaking out if 2 children are closer than they are to others in the rest of the class? I've known my best friends for at 25 years. If someone had separated my friend Katie and me in 4 year old pre-school, we would not have a 25 year old friendship. I have 4 friends who I would literally take a bullet for. I can't imagine having grown up without that.
I will say, while I don't agree with the article, I do have one friend who is the perfect example of the article's argument. She was dropped by a group of friends in middle school and at 30 years old has never gotten over it. Even though she has always had many friends, the middle school drama had a profound affect on her self esteem that she is still working through with a therapist. I still don't think a teacher should have intervened though.
I really have to think that article represents a minority view of thought. The comments after it were pretty interesting.
I'm just glad that I didn't have to worry about that! I have always had a built-in best friend - my twin sister!
I don't think that parents and teachers should try to separate best friends. I do think that it would be great if everyone was taught to be caring, open-minded, and accepting of everyone's differences and unique qualities.
I agree w Jweat. Unless it's hurting the child, parents and teachers shouldn't really separate best friends.
I do see with the kids that they don't seem to have 'best friends' like I did-at least the boys don't. My SD has one, but it's not easy for her and it seems they always do 'play dates'-which DH hates that term.
My BF's are really great and, even if I don't see them as much as I'd like-we pick up where we left off-like it was just yesterday. Nice to have someone for a diff POV than DH or my sister!
I think camps and such that do the coaching is just odd.
It all sounds silly to me. I wish I would have had a true best friend. Even my "best friend" from high school I don't consider a true best friend. We hungout a lot, but we didn't share all of our secrets and I couldn't rely on her to help with absolutely everything...just some stuff (and never the real personal stuff). I think best friend relationships are important.
But like Karrey said, I think true best friends will remain best friends even if they are separated at school or camp. Really, I think it'll make things worse with the other friendships though -- the more you try to force a relationship, the less likely it is to blossom.