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medical bills?
we haz em!
i continue to be amazed with the yr 2010 and how it continues to smack us [medically/financially] every time we turn around! ARGH! we got married on 1/1/10 to start the year off right, or so i thought! it started in early march:
first there was a hole in my tooth that required emergency dental work. DH's employer doesnt provide dental, so we're SOL there. luckily it only cost us $150.
then there was the miscarriage, which cost us $625 (thank goodness his employer pays the next $625..the bills add up to far more than $625, it's just all that we are required to fork over). there have been multiple drs appts, multiple rounds of bloodwork and follow up appts.
then DH finally gave in and went to see a dentist (he has secondary dental through aflac, which isnt very good but better than nothing). once they started doing work on his teeth it was a downward spiral that aggrevated his other teeth more and more. on monday he will wrap it all up with caps and another root canal and we'll walk away with a nearly 6k bill.
i went to see my PCP for a very minor issue, but it somehow turned in to excessive tests to check out my thyroid (DX with hashimoto's..which was not a surprise). we're still waiting for those bills to roll in.
2 days ago i wake up to throbbing pain in my mouth, which i proceed to ignore at all costs. i WILL NOT see another dr. but it was so painful yesterday i called, saw the dentist this morning for an xray. i have an infected & impacted wisdom tooth that requires immediate extraction. next wed i will have all 4 removed. MORE MED BILLS, YEAH!!!
i am truly thankful that his employer pays half of our deductible, truly i am. honestly. i'm just overly annoyed that since early march i have spent 13 days seeing a dr in some capacity (that is 13 days, some of those days had multiple appts in them in an effort to kill 2 birds with 1 stone). i started a new job 3 days after the miscarriage....i'm waiting for them to get fed up with my constant time off for drs crap!!
i would like to say that at this point nothing else [medically] can crop up....but i know better than to think that!
and i was really just looking to whine/vent here. no point to my ramble. just trying to get it off my chest so that DH doesn't have to hear it!
here, have a margarita cupcake for listening to me:
Re: medical bills?
oh no! you guys have had a rough 6 months. i hope it gets better soon!
thanks for the cupcake!!!
wow that's awful! I was without insurance for half a year before DH and I got married and absolutely refused to go to any doctor because of it. There is so much wrong with our healthcare system but for a country with so many brilliant minds, we can't come up with anything better?!
Now I'm gonna vent back at ya, for the same reason - I can't vent to DH about this anymore.
I am loney. Like, that deep down, restless loneliness. We up and moved 10 hours away from all of our family a little over a year ago to come to GA for school. Last summer I was so busy wedding planning and looking for H a job that I didn't mind being home, plus, he was home with me. Then I started school and was so busy with school that there wasn't hardly time for H; I was pulling 48 hours in the studio at a time, and pretty much stopped having a regular schedule - I would sleep for 3 hours at a time, sometimes on the couch in studio because I was afraid I'd fall asleep driving home, and then get up and work for 11 or so hours, and then nap 3 hours again - day and night pretty much ceased to exist. This went on for 8 months.
In May the semester was over and I had all this free time on my hands. I was so used to being busy that in one week I spring cleaned my entire house (I'm talkin, super clean, like steaming carpets, cleaning cupboards, scrubbing on hands and knees clean), reorganized everything, cleaned out my closet and donated to goodwill, did tons of landscaping outside, and planted our garden. Now I'm just bored. I work from home so I can pretty much sit on my couch all day.
Now, I know you all have heard me complain about H's job, but this past month has been ridiculous. There have been 3 new hires in his department, so on top of doing his own work to meet sales quotas, he's having to help train these guys - and his boss is at a conference in Florida, so he's having conference calls every night at 9 PM, which last an hour or two. He gets up at 6, leaves the house by 6:30, and comes home at 11. I literally see him an hour a day because he's so tired when he gets home he just wants to crash. On top of that, he works at our church, and his boss there called him and asked him to cover for him all weekend, doing a wedding on Saturday and the sound for all 3 services on Sunday.
I only have one friend left in town this summer that I go to school with, and I see her every once in awhile, so it's not like I'm a complete shut in, but I spend almost every waking hour in solitary confinement. I miss my family so much, and my friends from back home. My cousin is going to have a baby soon, and all I want to do is go home instead of sitting at home alone ALL.THE.TIME. H knows that I'm lonely, but I don't think he knows it's this bad.
/pathetic life vent.
I'm so sorry jrsy. That really does suck; when it rains it pours.
Ashley, I completely understand how you feel. I hope it gets better.
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I think we should all take a round of shots on me!
BFP 02/2010 m/c 03/17/2010 dx PCOS 04/2010
BFP 08/13/2011 CP 08/15/2011
BFP 09/16/2011 EDD 05/20/2012
Claire Elizabeth, born 5/30 via a med free birth
Jrsy- I'm sorry
Medical things always tend to pile up at once for me, too. About a year or two ago I was at a different doctor every week. Aside from the having to pay medical bills, it just sucks because you're in waiting rooms then small exam rooms and it's sterile and doing it so often just sucks. Get your tooth fixed! That sounds insanely painful and will only get worse.
I am curious about your miscarriage bills though, if you don't mind. I have a friend who had a miscarriage a few months before yours; she went to the gyno, they confirmed it and that was it. Why are you having so many tests/visits/bills because of it? Is it because you want to try again right away? She wasn't even trying in the first place so maybe that's why she didn't have all those followups?
Ash - I know exactly how you feel. With all the recent moving I have no friends here and when I'll be back in Buffalo for a bit this fall, I'll only have one there. It doesn't bother me that much, but I do know how you feel. Would it help if I said you get used to it?
I'll have a drink with you all tonight... after I do the Shred for the day which is up next!
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YAH! thanks for the shots!!
ashley-i'm sorry
i hope it gets better for you. maybe it's just a rough patch?
well, i didn't have a typical miscarriage, so that's pretty much why. i had some complications so we bumped up my u/s. the u/s showed no baby but did show blood confined to a spot in one of my tubes and thought it might have been ectopic, so they shuffled me down the hall to see my dr immediately. that immediate seeing the dr thing is what was so expensive, and it happened twice-he billed it as an emergency visit, rather than a typical copay visit. so instead of being billed $20, i was billed $150+ for each visit. the u/s was a wed, he had me return friday for bloodwork to see which way my levels were going..hoping to determine if it was a miscarriage or ectopic. they never determined either way. i bled heavily the day after the u/s..so i lean towards miscarriage, but the drs tagged it as ectopic just so that extra precaution is taken should i conceive again. and bc there was concern that it may have been ectopic, i opted to have the shots of methatrexate so that i didnt risk rupturing a tube. having those shots required blood work 5 & 7 days later to make sure the levels were reducing. $600 later....i wish i had just sat on my couch, waited the complications out a few days and let it all happen naturally, since nothing could have helped anyways. but i couldnt have known that at the time. oh wellz.