Intimate in the Shower

leeleegal2 · June 2010

I have always wanted to have intimate showers with my husband. I often ask him to join me, but he is always reluctant to do so. Perhaps it is because we only have a shower and not a tub, so it's not a lot of room, but I still think it's one of the most intimate, sexy places to be with each other. Any ideas on how to convince him to shower with me?

emmypants · June 2010

When he is in the shower, walk in naked and hop in with him?

ashleym909 · June 2010

we take showers and we have a tub. but even if you have a stand up shower it should still be easy. walk in naked, whats he gonna do tell you to get out? lol

jaydollar · June 2010

try this!

The_Quiet_One · June 2010

I can kind of understand his reluctance about shower sex -- not a lot of space and sometimes awkward positioning. Plus, when you fall over, it hurts or you pull the shower curtain down or both (What? No, of course I've never done something like that! *grins*).

But if you really want to give it a shot, just hop in there with him and give it a whirl.

rels09 · June 2010

emmypants:
When he is in the shower, walk in naked and hop in with him?

Ding ding ding! And yes, I agree with PP, actual sex in there can be overly challenging, but it's still a fun place to get things going.

Tennis Chick · June 2010

Maybe he just doesn't like shower sex? For me (and luckily bf), showering is relaxing and something I use to unwind from a rough day/wake up for the day. So we prefer to do this solo. Have you asked him why he doesn't really like it? I'd do that before surprising him in the shower. If he gives you a random "I don't really know" or something, then go for it.

eyelovemascara · June 2010

Yes, surprise him! Also, when DH and I shower together it doesn't always end up in sex. Sometimes we just like to be naked and wet together, and other times it turns into something more. Just go with it and relax!

XandO12106 · June 2010

I definitely agree with the other posts. Join him in the shower. Just start soaping up your body and really get into it. Then reach for shampoo or something and rub against him. If you get him into it the first time, he'll love it after that. My husband and I also only have a stall shower, and though space is limited, it makes for extra steamy scenes and more closeness. You may need to be inventive, but the cleanup is so much easier than anywhere else.

Also, if he doesn't seem to want sex in the shower, just use some conditioner and start on him. He'll enjoy that so much that he may get the hint and join you or ask you to join him more often. I hope this helps.

KatiethePiano · June 2010

Oral is a lot of fun in the shower. Just be sure that you'll be able to breathe while the water is going and that it's not gushing down your nose. :-)

mwhitson14 · June 2010

I would first talk to him about why he's not into it. He could have valid reasons that you just need to respect. But if he can't really give you a clear picture, then I'd just hop in when day when he's not rushing to get ready for work or something.

leeleegal2 · June 2010

I tried to hop in with him today, and he threw a fit! I couldn't get in. I opened the door and he just kept saying "No! No!" I feel so disappointed, because like I said, it is one of my most intimate desires. Oh well. Guess I just forego my own wants. *sigh* Tongue Tied

olivehim · June 2010

Ummm...maybe his usual masturbation time is in the shower and he doesn't want to mix up his "fantasy" private time with sex with his wife?? I honestly can't think of another reason why he would not want to have sex in the shower even if it is cramped if he's otherwise always interested in sex. Most men with normal libidos would be happy to have sex on a bed of nails - forgetting about any issues with discomfort! You should share with him how important and sexually exciting it is to you to have shower sex and see if he comes around (no pun intended...ok, maybe a little!)

EricaD521 · June 2010

i'm thinking he might have body issues. is he comfortable being completely naked in front of you in normal light? i had a boyfriend back in the day that had body image issues and never wanted to be seen fully naked, unless we were having sex in bed, with the lights off. or maybe he had a bad experience before? i think you need to ask him why he doesn't want it.

BigTrev · June 2010

XandO12106:
Join him in the shower. Just start soaping up your body and really get into it.
Also, if he doesn't seem to want sex in the shower, just use some conditioner and start on him. He'll enjoy that so much that he may get the hint and join you or ask you to join him more often. I hope this helps.

I'm a guy...go for this. If he's not into it, give him a little extra motivation like that and he'll figure it out!! just make sure you use the conditioner and not soap or shampoo...they can burn if they in it!

BigTrev · June 2010

leeleegal2:
I tried to hop in with him today, and he threw a fit! I couldn't get in. I opened the door and he just kept saying "No! No!" I feel so disappointed, because like I said, it is one of my most intimate desires. Oh well. Guess I just forego my own wants. *sigh*

Wow just read this one...that is really odd. Not sure I have any advice for you there. Maybe the shower is just his one time to be alone and he really needs some solitude or something.

emschott · June 2010

I'm a lurker but feel the need to chime in on this one. My husband wants to do it in the shower too. Even though I keep a clean house, including the bathroom, I hate the idea of pressing up on the walls of the shower... just seems gross. That doesn't keep us from showering together or fooling around in there though...

leeleegal2 · July 2010

I'm baaack! So, we've moved, and we have a larger shower and tub, and yet my hubby still refuses to shower with me! But yesterday, after a super hot temperature day, we decided to get down and dirty in bed, and afterward, he said "I'll take a shower with you" without me even having to beg! It was a great experience. We got to talk and laugh and scrub each other after sex, and just enjoy time connecting. I think he was less intimidated now that we have a larger tub and since he didn't feel sexual pressure in the shower. It was really nice time, and I think we might do it again! I hope that eventually we can be more sexual in the shower, but just getting him in there is a great first step! Thanks for all the help.

lifeguard · July 2010

While DH is in the shower. Step in and start grooming your bikini line. He will probably notice.

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