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I'm going to throw myself a pity party :-(
I didn't get the second job I interviewed for. I got my rejection letter on Saturday. I'm still waiting on the appeal for unemployment and the county is about to lay off about 50 more social workers in two weeks. So there will be several hundred social workers in Sacramento without a job (counting the social workers who just graduated in May from Sacramento State University). It's pretty much undrstood between DH and I that I'm going to stay at home with the baby, but I think he expects me to have a job for the next six months.
Added to that, DH (I don't think he is doing it on purpose) is making me feel bad about not having any income. He got a speeding ticket a few weeks ago and I saw it on our credit card statemen last nightt. I asked him why he didn't say anything and he said "Well I have to pay it anyway, so what does it matter?" I asked him if he was implying that because I don't contribute to our household that I don't get to know about our finances. He said he didn't say that and said I was blowing things out of porportion. I was on the verge of tears and said I already feel bad enough about myself for what I've gone through with the last job and the ensuing drama and that there are literally no jobs out there for social workers. No one is hiring. He basically brushed off my feelings. I just feel stuck. I wish DH and I would just establish that I'm going to stay at home and then I could stop looking for a job. I've basically been crying every single day because I feel so bad about myself. I'm trying to stay positive, but I think that's all gone and I'm just letting the negative feelings take over.
AND added to that my oldest dog Sparkey is limping around. I had my SIL come over yesterday and look at him (she's a vet tech). She said he may have inflamation and then she trimmed his nails. He moved around so much while getting his nails trimmed that I think his shoulder might have been dislocated. DH doesn't want me to take him to the vet, but I think I need to. He looks so uncomfortable. Ugh, just what I need right now!
Re: I'm going to throw myself a pity party :-(
Hugs, I will keep you guys in my thoughts/prayers.
I would have reacted the same way to the "I'm going to pay it anyways so why does it matter" I'm sorry about that... And I bet he didn't mean it the way it came out and probably still doesn't even realize how it came out...
I saw your update on fb and almost commented because you sounded so positive about being a SAHM. I'm so sorry about the job hunt and it being so frustrating.
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i'm sorry you are having a tough time!
would you be interested in some seasonal type work? maybe at a department store just until you have the baby, then you are making some money, getting out of the house and don't feel bad quitting when the baby comes?
I'm so sorry this is happening. I know it's so hard right now and I really thought you were going to get that job.
Coming from the other side though (in a slightly different situation), it was really stressful for me when Daniel didn't have a job. Granted, I don't make a whole lot especially considering COL around here, but it was hard to not constantly worry about money and paying bills. I can imagine your H feels even more pressure because you have a baby on the way. I'm not trying to excuse his behavior for brushing off your feelings, but I'm sure he's just concerned.
I'm with Jen on trying to find a temporary job. Maybe throw in your resume to a temp agency and see if they can find something short term for you. Good luck, girl. I know it's rough.