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DH cleaning up oil spill (sorry this is off topic)
We just got married in April and now he has basically moved out of town for work cleaning up this horrendous oil spill. We live in southeast Louisiana about 20 miles west of New Orleans. He is now in Grand Isle which is on the coast and about 2 hours away from our house. I have never lived alone before so I'm adjusting to that. Luckily my parents only live a few miles away. There is no way of knowing how long he will be gone. Maybe a year? He works 12 hours a day 7 days a week in the 90+ degree heat so he can't really come home at night because he is so tired. I went to visit him this weekend and stayed two nights but it didn't make me feel any better. Kind of worse actually. I feel like our new life together has been put on hold and I don't know how to deal with it. The only good coming out of this job for us is A LOT of money. Which is great but I want my husband back. I feel bad for saying that because the wives who lost their husbands in the explosion will never get them back. I just don't know what to do other than try too keep myself busy so I won't think about him being gone. But it's hard not to think about it when I go to bed alone every night.
Sorry this is off topic but this board seems to always be understanding. Unlike some others where there's a bunch of drunks making random posts.
Thanks BP for f*cking up everyone's world!
Re: DH cleaning up oil spill (sorry this is off topic)
Agree with PP, stay busy.
But I would like to add, tell your husband thank you, from me and I'm sure some others too. I appreciate the people out there working to clean it up, while BP sits behind their desks and twiddle their thumbs. I hope they are paying him a sh!tload of money to clean up that mess.
I'm so sorry you are dealing with this... and thanks to your husband for doing this important but clearly taxing job.
What are you planning to do with the money earned? Can you think of that as a sort of "incentive" for getting through it (if it's going towards home improvement, new car, vacation, etc)?
In the meantime, is it possible for him to get a long weekend away? Even if he's exhausted and you're just lounging in a hotel bedroom somewhere, I think it'd be a great mental break for him and for you.
Hang in there.
I definitely plan to do a lot of things around the house with the money. I told my hubby the house is going to look completely different when he comes home. I'm also thinking of a second honeymoon!
I guess what makes it worse is that I don't know when this will be over. No one knows. If I had a time to look forward to I think it would be better.
Gator Bride - I hope your husband doesn't have to start working the long hours. Thankfully we don't have any kids yet so I only have to worry about myself...and the dog.
Thanks for all of the support.
Horrendous.
Not worth it for the exposure to God knows what's there -- there's also benzine and toluene and both are highly toxic and dangerous.
More or less a suicide mission...and no benefits, I'll bet.
I understand completely. My husband and I got married back in March. We lived together about a year before we got married, but still. This spill has taken such a toll on us and my family as well. DH has two jobs and he is working massive overtime with both and I hardly see him.
What makes it worse is that our children really miss him. Our son is constantly asking why his daddy is always gone. It breaks my heart. Within the last month, I have only seen him about 8 or 9 full days. And when he is home, he just wants to sleep because he is exhausted from working so much.
So trust me, I can completely relate to you and your situation. Which part of SE Louisiana do you live in? I'm from Thibodaux.