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OK, ladies. Let's see if I can figure out how to make a poll. If not, please "vote" via reply.
I have a reception for a college friend this weekend. She was actually married in the Bahamas, but this is her at home reception. The reception is in Grand Rapids, which I thought was a 4ish hour drive. I RSVP'd yes.
No idea why I thought it was a 4 hour drive, but it's definitely more like 6. It wouldn't be a huge deal, except DH was originally supposed to go and now he can't. The original plan was to drive up and back in the same day (the reception is 2-6 and more of a backyard barbecue sort of deal), as I am slammed at work and have to work Sunday. The idea of driving 12 hours in one day for a 4 hour commitment is not thrilling me.
As only 2 friends are going (one girl from our college group that I don't particularly get along with and the bride's twin), sharing a hotel room with someone is not an option. I could drive up Saturday morning, do the reception and then drive 2 hours to Ann Arbor, stay with a friend and leave early the next morning. The friend in Ann Arbor is having a party that night, so I am not wild about the idea of this plan as I know I will be up late and not want to wake up early to drive home and work. To complicate matters, the bride is a twin. Her sister is getting married in August and I am going to that, have booked a hotel, etc. (Her wedding is the traditional church/ evening reception deal) It also appears that more people are attending that wedding. So, I feel guitly about being there for one and not the other.
Sorry for the long story, but WWYD?
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Re: advice
I think for me it would depend on how close I was to the college friend and even the sister. Note - you didn't say this was your BFF from college, or even a person present in your life now - but a college friend.
You aren't in college any more (I assume.). While keeping those connections is nice, they don't necessarily warrant an huge amount of inconvenience.
If anything, I'd ask if there was anything you could do the day-of to be helpful or tag along on a group pedicure - something where you could see them at least a little. Drive up Friday night, enjoy the day then drive home for as far as you feel like it - making sure to have an overnight bag packed for work in the event that you get tired earlier than you thought.
Maybe see if there's anyone at work that can cover for you for an hour so you can be a little late.
Thanks for the input. Both girls (and entire group of friends referred to) are team mates from college, so yes we were good friends and spent quite a bit of time together. Unfortunately, since we are all scatted across the country and Europe, it's rare that we get together. Lately it has been limited to weddings and such. Of all the girls on the team, this is one of them I have stayed in contact with the most.
I checked about day of and they are doing family only event since she and her husband are only in town for a few days for the reception. Unforunately, as far as work, there is no way for someone to cover for me. It's not that I have to be "at" work, per se, I just have to go into the office and get some major work done on a project for our audit. Getting it down during the week doesn't happen because of the phone, people popping into the office, etc. etc.
As of now, I am planning to just wake up early, make the drive, stay until 5ish, and try to make it home. I can always lay over with friends that live at various points along the way if need be. I wish we could just teleport already!!