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Bad Date Story Swap!
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How fun!
When I first moved to Denver I went on a series of bad first dates:
There was the guy who prefaced everything with "I'm not racist but..." "I have nothing against gay people but..." He even said, "Wow, there are a lot of black people in Denver." He was a winner.
I went on a date with a guy who had a son, he told me the entire story on how he met his son's mom, and how she kept the baby just to hold on to him and then she left him anyways, and how she doesn't even want the kid but she keeps him to just to piss him off.....The whole date he talked to me about her. I just kept thinking, maybe you should work some stuff out with her before you start dating again.
The best one was a guy who wanted to take me to his favorite restaurant for lunch and we drove half and hour so we could go to Black Eyed Pea. He wouldn't tell me where we were going but just kept talking about how great it was. He also told me he had a recurring dream that he was a vampire and slaughtered all his friends and family. He also was a "film buff" but had never seen a Tarantino movie.
Seriously, Blacked Eyed Pea! we were the youngest people in there by at least 40 years.
This isn't terrible, but a little awkward...
About a month before I met DH, I had been talking with another guy from match.com. We went out on a first date, and it was ok. He was a little awkward. I gave him a quick kiss goodnight and that was his first ever kiss at 23 yrs old. But we had great convos, so I was willing to give it all a chance. So it was NYE 2004 (or do you consider it 2005? whatever) and I had JUST flown in redeye that morning from a marching band trip, which I was gone for just a few days, getting over the flu. So I was extra exhausted recovering from the travel and flu. This guy wanted to bring me dinner and hang out at my apartment for the whole new years thing. Ok, that was fine. I slept all day to prepare.
Well, he comes over about 7 or 8 with movies and dinner. A pork roast that his mom made (he still lived with his parents). I am not a pork roast fan at all, especially with whatever glaze that was on it, so I played that I was still with a weak stomach from the flu (truthfully, if he had brought a pizza or something, I would have scarfed that down). I appreciated the gesture, just thought it was weird he had his mom prepare that kind of dinner for what was our 2nd date. So we sit on my futon (haha, my single studio apt college days) and we watch the first movie, which I managed to stay awake for. He goes to put his arm around me and Buster kitty jumps on my lap and growls his loudest and is just glaring at this guy! He didn't try that again until Buster was asleep elsewhere, haha, Buster put some fear into him. The second movie he brought was A Midsummer Night's Dream, I remember, because I knew there was no way I could comprehend Shakespeare even in film form at that point. So I literally told him to wake me 10 minutes before midnight, because I can't stay up anymore, and fell asleep on the futon. Haha, he did, too.
So it was a dud night, awkward too. We had the new years kiss and then he drove the 45 minutes back home. And then, when we chatted on AIM the next day, he tells me he chickened out on asking me to make out. Um, what? You don't ask, you just do!!! LoL Sweet guy, we could talk for hours, but there was nothing there. I ended up going on 1 or 2 more dates with him before realizing there was nothing that would come of it, and we'd be better off friends.
I started dating this guy my junior year of college who had just graduated. We had a few great dates and after about two weeks of dating he asked me to come over to his house to watch movies. I came over and planned to spend the night (but didn't plan on any hanky panky, I'm not that type of girl!!). We watched a movie and got into bed, where he proceeded to ask if he could read me a story. Odd request, but I said sure, go for it. He pulled out Harry Potter and read it to me, and was VERY into it. Needless to say I broke up with him.
Fast forward about 4 years and I had moved back to Sacramento after grad school and had broken up with my boyfriend of 3 years. I joined eharmony and guess who I was matched with...that's right HARRY POTTER Guy. I thought, WTH? He owns his own company and is doing really well. I also tended to dump guys for no reason back in college and figured I'd give him another try. We went out for drinks and he proceeded to tell me his theory (this was seriously out of no where) on women who have father's who are alcoholics. He said they are all easy and all psychologically damanged. I nicely pointed out that my father was an alcoholic and I am neither easy nor psychologically damanged. He argued with me about this the rest of the night, saying I must be. When he dropped me off at my apartment after the date he walked in and met my dog Sparkey and said "Hi Sparkey, I'm your new dad." WTF!?! Needless to say, I remembered why I broke up with him the first time and that was the end of that!!
I went out with a guy who had recently become a Christian. He lived about 2 hours from where I lived. He was trying to decide if he should stay a little longer after dinner so we could go to the movies or arcade. There was a bad storm on it's way. He sat down in the mall, started praying while holding his cross necklace. I encouraged him to go home.
This story makes me laugh!!!! I think you told it to me when we met for dinner once. LOL I love that you call him Harry Potter.
These stories are making me laugh. I only have a pretty lame one...
But as a background, I was not in the dating scene until college. WAY too shy/introverted. So I was a little behind and felt so awkward about dating at first in college.
My best friend went and I were both in engineering at different colleges. I don't know how it happened but I ended up talking to this one guy at her college freshman year. He seemed so romantic, and yes, this was all phone/computer, etc and I had never met him. His last name was Sweet and he would always say good bye with "Sweet dreams" (I know, corny, but I had never had this kind of attention). And sending virtual flowers, etc.
So we wanted to meet, of course- my friend and I drove to a mall in Rochester, NY to meet him during Christmas break. (He lived in Rochester and it was probably a 2 hour drive for us.) I recognized him right away, and I admit I was pretty awkward too, but he didn't even open his mouth and say a word! Not a hi, nothing! No hug... Very weird. Mt friend and I talked as we walked around the mall and it was almost like he wasn't there...
Then, the worst part, he walked us to our car (he did eventually talk a little but just in response to questions my friend would ask to try to prompt a conversation) but we couldn't remember where we parked. So he drove us around the parking lot as we looked for my friend's car and he never even said bye. LOL.
(Oh and my friend got a speeding ticket on the way home. We agreed it was the worst trip we'd ever had.)
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One time in high school I went out with a neighbor boy of my BFF. I thought he was super cool because he had a truck (a heap) and I still couldnt drive yet. I got myself all worked up and excited and nervous because I was my first car date and I heard lots of stories about boys and cars. BFF happened to be a huge slut and I was a total virgin. We were going to see a movie that I really really wanted to see and he was trying to shove his tounge down my throat the whole time. About half way through the movie he asked if I wanted to leave and I said yes, thinking he wanted to move our little party out to the truck. Once we got outside I told him I was ready to go home because I wasnt feeling great. I was terrified that I would end up losing my virginity to this guy from pure peer pressure and I would regret it for the rest of my life. So I spent this entire date freaked out that this guy was going to expect much more than I was willing to give him and the whole date sucked. Funny thing is, I ran into him at a party and he actually questioned me about my behavior that night. I had a few drinks so I told him the truth. Of course he had talked to my friend after the date and she told him how I had felt. He felt so bad, and said he had absoultly no intentions of trying to sleep with me because he was a virgin too and was waiting until he got married to have sex. So he really only just wanted to make out with me. I felt like an ass. For a while any time I ran into him after that he would always say, "Hey you wanna make out?" He was always so super super sweet and a great guy I felt really bad.
My other bad date story was my first date with DH. He asked to take me out to lunch (we worked together and as a single parent he knew my nights were filled) for my birthday. I was working on a huge case and was lucky to have time to go out. I happened ot have my waist length hair pulled back with a huge binder clip to keep it out of my face. He made fun of me. Then showed me to his hot ass car which happened to be a 1999 tan Ford Escort that he bought off his BFF grandmother. Strike 2. You work for a lawfirm, talk all this *** like you are the man and you drive an escort? ok, whatever. He takes me to this great Italian place that we still eat at on our dating anniversary every year. He then drops an entire forkfull of spagetti on the front of his pants. We get back out to the car and he has Phish on the radio. If you have never heard of Phish, its like crazy circus, folky, bluesy, type music. i dont even know how to describe it. I asked him what the hell that was and he said its cool I can change it. So he puts in Bob Marley. Great a nice first date with a hippy stoner that cant hold a fork and drives his grandmothers car at 27 years old. I thought ok, this boy is not for me. Now, 6 years later we are married and discussing babies. I also happen to LOVE Bob Marley and Phish now.
this is fun!
one time when i was about 19, i went through the drive thru at dairy queen and really thought the guy at the window was cute, so i went back through and handed him a napkin with my phone number on it. he called me either that night or the next night, and i was over the moon!
we went out a few times, and we had so much in common.. we would talk and laugh the whole time we were together or on the phone.. but i could NOT get him to kiss me.. i thought, well, ok... no big deal. maybe he likes to wait awhile.
then he started hanging out with his friend michael more and more, which i thought was great, since i was working a lot and he hadn't really had any guy friends since we had started getting to know each other. we still continued to hang out and once or twice he held me a little longer when we hugged and he even held my hand once! i was so excited to be making progress!!!
we went to one of my favorite cheap, fast mexican places in my hometown for dinner one night, and i was really excited. we were going to do mini golf afterwards and the other dates i'd gone on at mini-golf ended with making out because i like to flirt.
so we're sitting there, talking like normal... and then he says, "i have to tell you something, babe." ummmm ok? "i'm gay. michael is my boyfriend, and i feel like i might have been leading you on.." YOU THINK?!?!
i sat there in stunned silence for awhile and then i picked up a chip from our pile of chips and placed it on the table. i crushed it up into an almost fine powder with my spoon. then i scraped up all of the chips pieces and put it in my water glass. i spooned it out and plopped it on the table. i looked him in the eyes and he was teary-eyed. and then i said, "THIS is what you've done to my heart." he started bawling.
we had already ordered, so we ate in silence and then we left. he called me the next day and we talked for awhile. i told him that i was really disappointed that he had led me on for so long, but i was happy that he was happy with michael. it was such a strange convo.... anyway, that was my worst date ever.
I didn't really have a lot of bad date stories - I always dated guys that I knew through school so there was never any really awkward things...but I have a funny story.
So my junior year in HS I hooked up with this guy (he was a senior). It wasn't bad, but it wasn't blow your mind spectacular. And there was a party going on upstairs (his parents were having some kind of party) and we were in the basement. We had a near miss interruption. I didn't stick around for long afterward cause he had to get back to the party. The whole thing was strange At school he started talking about me and not in a nice way, so I talked back. It was an awkward year. He graduated that year and after that I didn't see him again. He went off to college and I moved on and was dating someone else. Fast forward 4 years, after a random meeting we and some more getting to know you time we were dating. 4 years after that, we were married and not long after that we were living in that same basement haha
lol that's awesome!
these are hilarious!
i have sooooo many, but i'll "stick" to the one that is the shortest to type...
i was out with this guy and we were at happy hour and ordered some lollipop chicken wings. i had a sleeveless shirt on and we were talking away and he started rubbing his chicken wing full of glazy greasy sauce up and down my bare arm. note...i said we were at happy hour, so sun was still shining, so drunkeness was no excuse!
weird part was i didn't say anything about it and neither did he. i just excused myself to the bathroom and cleaned it off. mutual friends set us up, so when we got together a few weeks later (the 4 of us) my friend's husband brought it up. the guy said he thought i was fun loving and would "go with it". not sure what that meant, but whatever, we laughed (a lot) about it. he was known as "chicken wing" among my friends forever and dated for a bit after that. now even TJ calls him chicken wing when we see him! LOL
LOL I love this story and the fact you are back in the same basement.
I just laughed so much I cried and if I hadn't just peed, I would have probably peed my pants. This is the best story, ever!