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I'm going to be an Auntie...& MIL already started
drama....
I sure don't know how to take this and could really use some advice.
Monday SIL announced via text and facebook she was expecting. I texted her back with congrats!
I was on my way to the ER with my dog....so I figured once I get to the vet I can sign on facebook and post something more than congrats...well of course my mil has to start.
MIL posts on facebook, Congrats, glad to see your always the first.
What the F does that mean? Why does she have to post something so immature . That comment was direct towards me,wouldn't you agree, I am the only other DIL? Iwas so pissed I just said i will send a cute gift congratulating my bil and sil . But when dh called me that evening he brought up the news and I said I am happy for them I told him what his mom said in sil post.I also made it clear to him, if MIL continues to do stupid things and make indirect remarks to me via other ppl I am going to blow. I wanted so bad to reply to sil fb post but I didn't want to rain on her happines plus I am trying really hard to stay away and not put dh in this position, but I am not going to tolerate this. I wish MIL and I would just get into an arguement already so that way things are just over and done with, but I know deep in my heart if that happens I would end up having to put dh in a tough position and I am truly trying to avoid that.
Do you think dh should mention something to his mom about the post?
Re: I'm going to be an Auntie...& MIL already started
That was so immature and rude of her to do that. She knows what she did. I think that by acknowledging it, it only makes it worse and shows her that it truly bothered you. Why give her that satisfaction?
honestly i think sometimes interenet words can be taken out of context. we are not there to actually hear what mil is thinking or ask questions.
is sil older? did she get married first? i know in some families there might be a child that does do everything first.
not saying what she typed is ok but try to think that she was not attacking you but simply mentioning something.
I probably wouldn't acknowledge it and give her the satisfication of her knowing it bothered you. I don't understand the statement that she put, what does it matter that she was first?
I think if she says other stuff I might say something to her though.
Kellie~ I keep telling myself to ingore it.
Carmen~ sil and bil got married spur of the moment, dave is the oldest and james is the youngest. They got married b/c James wanted to beat us to the alter as he says... he is young, so we don't care...MIL has done pretty mess up stuff to her kids especially my dh, so there is more to it. Everything that comes out of her mouth is negative when it comes to me, all b/c I wouldn't let her live with me. She is just that type of person. I wish I could look on the bright side with her but i can't. she is spiteful and does spiteful things to me and dh.
As for bil and sil~ they are the type of ppl that want to do things first so they can be first, that is just who they are, that doesnt' bother me.
all in all i will step back, but not sure how much longer I can bite my tongue.
Michelle, I'm obviously not in your shoes, so I know that I don't understand the full extent of your MIL's spitefulness and pettiness. She sounds like quite the piece of work!
But I do really think that if I were in your position, I'd do my best not to let her get to me. She's behaving in a very immature way, and acknowledging her or letting yourself get upet when she says or does stupid things like this is just lowering yourself to her level.
I know that it's a lot easier said than done, especially considering that A) I live on the other side of the country from her, and
I'm not related to her. But that's just my two cents.
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Your MIL sounds like a passive aggressive B!tch. Ignore her, I guess. I understand though about wanting to just have it out. I felt that way w/ my ILs and I ended up sending FIL an e-mail that MIL read and deleated before FIL ever read it. She still dislikes me. I couldn't care less. FIL likes me a little more, but that only came since their seperation.
GL! I know it sucks.
I think I will just let this one go. Thanks ladies. I don't want to lower myself to trash unless I have to.
Thanks for the vent ladies.