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Do you "reprimand" your friends?
My BFF went tanning before our friends wedding. I think it's ridiculous that she would do this with all of the skin cancer research out there. But I didn't say anything to her. She is an adult and knows the risks so she can do what she wants.
**This is just an example, and no offense to those who tan**
This got me thinking, I rarely reprimand my friends if they do something I disapprove of. I just figure they know the possible consequences of their actions. Plus, I hate confrontation so I would have a hard time expressing negative feelings anyway.
I think this would change if it was something more serious, like a troubled marriage or a drinking problem.
Thoughts?
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DD2: 9/7/11
Re: Do you "reprimand" your friends?
No, I definitely don't reprimand my friends. They're smart women, and make their own choices.
I'd be really annoyed if one of my friends tried to reprimand me for "bad" or "unhealthy" habits that I have. (Don't we all have one or another?) I think it would come off sanctimonious and not be good for the relationship, even when the intention is good.
Mostly, I'd mind my own business, unless like someone else said, they were going to go drive drunk or something.
Tanning is like smoking. The people who do it already know it's bad for them, but they're not going to stop just because someone tells them to.
Tanning is fun, and SO relaxing. I miss it, but I just can't see spending the money on it anymore. I haven't been since my wedding, four years ago. I wouldn't say it's addictive, but I really miss it in the winter.
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This. I dont approve of smoking, but I dont reprimand those that do it either.
However, I have recently changed my opinion on reprimanding in one area. And thats language/jokes I deem offensive. I had someone (a family friend of FIL's) use the N-word recently in my presence, and I flat out told him "I am not comfortable with that word. It is offensive."
I usually have to do the same with one of DHs friends, who is an idiot and also makes racist comments on occasion.