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Completely freaked out.
Ok, last weekend I went with my friend who is prego to Babies R Us to help her with her registry. DH told me not to come home with any ideas haha. Well, ever since that trip to Babies R Us...the thought of having a child FREAKS ME OUT! I thought I was ready before the wedding and I even had baby fever for awhile.....NOT NOW! I will be extending my BC prescription again. haha
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LMAO! and this just confirms my BNOTB!!! scary stuff!!
Don't forget the whole pooping on the table thing..... that would probably be THE one most embarrassing thing ever, and I don't embarrass easily. Plus, this chick I used to work with had her first baby and was telling some of the horror stories about her childbirth.... they had to put staples/stitches inside her butt from all the ripping and whatnot... INSIDE HER BUTT!!!
That is absolutely horrifying.
ditto TERRIFYING!!! i'm going home to tell HH we gotta push it off longer than he thought, lol
Okay, NOW I think I'm going to faint...
pooping on the table and butt stitches? SIGN ME UP! I mean, who wouldn't want a piece of that action?
Does anyone know of a good place to look for chastity belts online?
Oh dear ladies! Yes birthing a baby has some ugly things to it. No doubt labor is called labor for a reason. I will tell you that I had the twins naturally with no pain meds at all. It was painful and it wasn't very pretty but those two amazing girls that I have has so many compliments on from all of you ladies are the most amazing beings. That first look from your little one that is looking so confused and their eyes are kinda crossed because they have never looked at well anything before is one of the most wonderful moments you will ever have. Looking at those amazing little fingers n toes and looking at your husband who will be marveling at all you just went through to bring him a son or daughter and the love you will see in his eyes for you and that baby is one of the most amazing things in the world! Every little thing that baby does you will not want to miss! You will enjoy even the little cries when they are newborns are so sweet and not painful to your ears like the spoiled little ones that you hear in the store. They are a wonderment to behold. Those few moment of yuckiness give way to some of the most special times in your life. Their first smile, the first time they roll over and are shocked by what just happened. Sitting is an amazing accomplishment rocking before they crawl. Being able to pick up their first cherrio all of this is amazing stuff! I could go on and on but I will stop now! Love you ladies and think you are wonderful but think about the good things not the bad when it comes to babies because they are a gift. Sometimes as they get older you will want to throttle them but there are so many of the other angelic moments that you will enjoy so very much!!
SHUT UP PAM!!!!! You aren't helping me bring ladies over to anti-baby side :P
It's something to realistically think about! Yes you poop, yes you can rip all the way to your bum, afterward sometimes you leak pee when you laugh or sneeze or run. I think it's good that people think about the not-so good aspects. Babies aren't all sunshine and rainbows!
Oh I don't think they are all Sunshine and rainbows. I didn't rip I got cut. I had stitches they weren't really that bad weren't great either! I hated when one of the them was collicky (sp)for 2 hours at 6 pm every night for a month. But all the negitive stuff on here is crazy. Babies are a blessing and all the stuff you are talking about becomes rather unimportant. If you do your exercises that you are supposed to do you won't have the leaking problem that some do because they don't care for themselves the way they are supposed to. Hell my girls were 6 weeks early and one of them could have died. They were in the hospital for a month after they were born. When they both were over 6 pounds I was amazed. Babies are a wonderful and amazing as well as expensive adventure. Most of the people on here haven't had them as well as you miss Hayley and are speaking 2nd hand. I am speaking from experience. Everything has a negative and a positive and I am here to balance it out a little!! Sorry you don't like it... Hugs No worries not offended but haha you should know not gonna shut up either!!! ;-D
Hell I also remember crying with my daughters as they were crying. I remember them being in the cribs and me going into the kitchen slamning cupboard doors because I would never hurt them but the cupboard doors could get slammed asking why did I ever think I wanted to be a mom. Until you are ready to deal with all that being a parent requires then NO don't have one. Or 2 in my case. But seeing them sleep like angels there is nothing like that. Nothing in the world!
Added note as well I think you should all enjoy being married for a while before you jump on the baby band wagon just so you know it is a lot of work and stress! Enjoy being a married couple first!
ROFL!!!
See! This is what I see/feel/hear/think about when babies come to mind. I actually started tearing up while reading this Pam because I want so badly to experience this part of life. And I know that I will.
And I'm actually kinda looking forward to the labor part (I know that seems INSANE) but I don't want to be absent from that day in my life. I want to be able to feel and remember every little moment. I've been in several labor rooms during births (vaginal and cesarean) and the moment that baby comes out, the whole mood changes. You can't help but feel the love and tear up with them. And I didn't even know these people!!!
Yes it all seems a little scary, but not enough for me to say "hmmmm, maybe not".
I can't WAIT.
you are wonderful Pam
I've been a volunteer in a birthing center for a while now... still not scared off. A lot of people poop on the table... that doesn't make you special or different.
To each his own!
I seriously need to stop reading this thread. I don't want to hear this stuff until I'm already knocked up and it's too late to turn back! LOL
I know that it'll be worth it in the end, but the thought of the process itself still scares me to death! Haha. At the moment, we're just enjoying the now for now. When we get to the TTC point, I'm sure that it will be incredible.
Babies R Us will scare the bejeesus out of any sane person. Including me, and I want children at some point soon here...lol. So with that said...
I absolutely agree with Pam when she said there are two sides to it and it's perfectly fine to be on one side or the other - not ready and BNOTB or feeling like you're ready and have baby fever. My friend, who has a now 2 yr old, told me that when she got pregnant her friends who had given birth started telling her all the things that nobody tells women who haven't yet gotten pregnant or had a baby - she said b/c if you knew beforehand, nobody would have babies. ;-) So yes, people can tear / poop on the table / pass gas while pushing in labor / suffer through long labors, etc...but when you're truly ready for teh responsibilities of bringing a new life into the world you take the unpleasant stuff along with the joyous moments. I guess it's sort of like the dues you pay in exchange for the experience of having a baby and becoming a parent. There's a reason people say it's the toughest job in the world but also the most rewarding.
So if you're not ready, that's okay! Wait! If you are...and you still want to forge ahead knowing all the "what ifs" then more power to you, as well.
My sister had three boys completely naturally (she is going to be 25 in December).
I watched the last boy's birth, because it is her last and there won't be any more babies in the family for awhile.
It was actually not a stressful experience at all. She barely moaned. The room was dimly lit to keep everyone sort of relaxed. She had the baby in about 20 minutes. There was alot of blood. I was surprised about that. But she wasn't in any pain despite having no epidural. I think there are alot of "birth hormones" that kick in when you go into labour. She didn't rip, and nothing embarrassing happened for any of her babies....
Sounds like your sister had a pretty calm birthing experience!
My friend with the 2 yr old said her husband described the room as looking like a bloody meat market after she was done - tools everywhere (the baby came out with some vacuum assistance at the end) and quite a bit of blood. Lovely. I think he was quite horrified by the experience! She delivered vaginally but came very close to needing a C-section...
well said CT- i do want kids one day, and I'll get there. But for right now BNOTB