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Cancelled Appointment
Well girls I am feeling the need for a little rant...
Actually I am more discouraged then anything. We were suppose to have our first appointment with the infertility specialist today. I had made the appointment a montha go and kept asking DH is he had asked his work if he could leave an hour early to get there on time. It is him they need to see also to do his SA and review the results with us on the same day and then we were going to make a plan on getting pregnant. I have been asking and asking but he still had not told work. It is kind of expensive and he would not give me an answer and is acting really dumb about it so I cancelled the appointment becaue if I waited until today I would have been charged. When i told him last night he got mad but I then said he did not seem very interested and that it was a big step and I feel like I am doing it by myself which I cannot do. litterally or figuratively. He wants a baby really bad but I just dont think he gets that it is not jsut "gonna happen" for us!. I feel so sad and discouraged. We should be supporting eachother but I do not feel like we are, Or rather he isn't. Maybe I should leave it alone for awhile and just forget about it even though it is what I want most in the world right now! What do you think? I am beign Crazy, mean , insensitive...irrational????
Re: Cancelled Appointment
I'm so sorry you are going through this! Maybe you guys just need to sit down and have a heart-to-heart about the process...help him understand a little about what needs to happen and find out if this really is something he wants right now.
I would sit down and have a long talk with him before you proceed any further. Going through infertility treatments is a hugely emotional (and physical and financially straining) process and you'll want to make sure you're both on the same page in case you end up pursuing treatment.
GL!
After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
IF sucks and I'm sorry you have to go through it.
I think you definitely need to sit down together and make sure you are on the same page. IF treatment is a lot of work, and if he isn't going to support you by making a simple gesture to take off an hour of work for your first appointment, then maybe he isn't ready, or is just scared, or is just a procrastinator in general.
So just make sure you're on the same page- then move on from there- the support and excitement is crucial!
This.
I hope everything works out for you and your DH.
I agree with everyone else. There needs to be a good long talk and maybe write everything down so he knows exactly what is going to be expected of him.
Maybe he's emabarrassed/upset & doesn't know how to express himself. But he does need to understand that if this is something he wants, he has to talk to you about it. If I'm passionate about something that involves DH & I, it would drive me crazy if he didn't show it or brush it off when asked.
*big hugs*
I also agree with PPs. Sounds like you need to have a good talk and get on the same page.
Hugs and good luck!
Thanks for the hugs theya re much needed and apprecaiated!