XP from the Bump - Is this tacky (shower related)?

flip_flops · June 2010

I just found out that the woman throwing my baby shower isn't planning on sending invitations out until 2 weeks before the date. This means that friends and family will have maybe 1.5 weeks notice. She's on vacation until after July 4th and invitations have not been ordered yet (shower is July 31).

How tacky/inappropriate is it for me to let friends and family know the shower date? Should this be done by phone rather than email? A lot of my friends being invited live out of town, and I won't see them before the shower.

I'm just thinking that summer is usually busy with vacations and other plans, so if it were me I'd want more notice than 1.5 weeks. I'm kind of annoyed that they're going out so late, but I don't know what I can do about it. I expressed my concern to my mom (shower is at her house and she's semi-involved), so hopefully she can pass it on tactfully.

What do you ladies think? The same woman threw my bridal shower and people were given much more notice.

Mrs.KaityJane · June 2010

I would ask the woman who is throwing the shower for you to get the invites out earlier. Tell her you are afraid your OOT friends would already have plans for that weekend. Offer to help her if she is short on time.

Rachel2315 · June 2010

I think it's legit to give a heads up!

kdonedizzle · June 2010

Can another friend for family member give the heads up? I would just hate it coming across to anyone as being pushy.

missdanib · June 2010

Rachel2315:
I think it's legit to give a heads up!

I agree. If they are your friends and family I doubt they would think anything of it. If there are any aquaintences coming, I probably wouldn't call/email them though.

softskate31 · June 2010

Can you ask for her to delegate the task to someone else who can get it done sooner? I don't think it is tacky if you give an informal heads up. Hell, I made, addressed, and mailed all mine b/c my mom didn't have time with the end of schoolyear madness. She hosted it but I did the hand work to get the invites out. Also, invites don't have to be ordered...blanks can be bought at a party store and printed at home...easy peasy...or there's the write iin kind too.

KatieTaylor77 · June 2010

If something like that were to happen, I would ask my mom or even my dad to kind of give people a heads up.

My mom did that for our family when her friends threw my baby shower. Most of our family live 4 hours north of us so it was just common courtesy to give them a bit more of an advanced notice.

flip_flops · June 2010

Thanks for the suggestions! My mom said she's been telling some family members. The issue is that my friend's mom is throwing the shower, and she's on vacation for the next 2 weeks. I'm not sure how to get in touch with her to offer to help with invitations. I have plans with 2 friends tomorrow, so I'll just casually mention it in conversation, and then try to come up with a non-pushy way to tell other (I totally get what you mean Karrey. It's not that I want people to come to give me gifts, but if it were me I'd want a little more notice).

veruca5839 · June 2010

I agree, I think it's totally fine to give a casual heads up about the shower. It's good your Mom has been able to share the info with some family already. I'd just go ahead and mention it to your really close friends.

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