newlywed and having a dry spell

FJL10 · June 2010

I've been married for about a month now and already am having issues in the bedroom. I've been on the bcp Loestrin 24 FE for about 4 months now and for about a week and a half have been experiencing dryness to the point where I can't even get it on with my new husband-even when I've been warmed up more than necessary-it's like a desert down there! Has anyone had this issue while on this pill? I'm a bit apprehensive when it comes to using something as a lubricant, but at the moment that seems to be the only resort. Is there any particular product you ladies can recommend for this problem?

snowday! · June 2010

FJL10:
I've been married for about a month now and already am having issues in the bedroom. I've been on the bcp Loestrin 24 FE for about 4 months now and for about a week and a half have been experiencing dryness to the point where I can't even get it on with my new husband-even when I've been warmed up more than necessary-it's like a desert down there! Has anyone had this issue while on this pill? I'm a bit apprehensive when it comes to using something as a lubricant, but at the moment that seems to be the only resort. Is there any particular product you ladies can recommend for this problem?

Why don't you want to use lube?

RaiKai · June 2010

The pill often tends to "dry you up". One of the side effects.

Why do not you not want to use lube? It's wonderful, even if one does not have an issue with lubrication, as it is long lasting. You are not a failure as a woman if you use lubricant, you know. It seems to me using lubricant is a better option than just not being able to have sex.

Sabrina121 · June 2010

Why would you be apprehensive to use lube???

wasgrl18 · June 2010

I never had a problem on LoEstrin Fe but then I switched to Ortho tri cyclen lo after I got married and was on it for four months and I'm dry most of the time but even when I'm not after I have sex the pain is excruciating. and I don't know if the change in my hormones is because I've gained some weight or what?

emmypants · June 2010

I'd use the lube, but thats just me.. Astro Glide is a good one.

stbmrsosorno · June 2010

If you don't wanna use lube, have him eat you out first...or in between...or just use his saliva as lube. I know it may sound gross to some but when you're in the mood, get it any way you can with your man hun. I have that issue sometimes and I'm super sensitive. The best lube I've found is called Pink!! Love it. It may make you feel a little awkward to use lube at first, maybe embarrassing. Trust me, I doubt your hubby cares. 5 seconds of awkwardness while lubing up will be completely forgotten for the next hour or so of some seriously sweet love making!!!

movingwater · June 2010

stbmrsosorno:
If you don't wanna use lube, have him eat you out first...or in between...or just use his saliva as lube. I know it may sound gross to some but when you're in the mood, get it any way you can with your man hun. I have that issue sometimes and I'm super sensitive. The best lube I've found is called Pink!! Love it. It may make you feel a little awkward to use lube at first, maybe embarrassing. Trust me, I doubt your hubby cares. 5 seconds of awkwardness while lubing up will be completely forgotten for the next hour or so of some seriously sweet love making!!!

agree 100% just buy a bunch of different kinds of lube and make a night of trying them kind one you really like and go for it.

lauriecz · June 2010

I agree with all these knowledgable ladies. Try the lube make it a fun thing. At some stores you can buy the tiny little single use samples and then see whcih one you like. You dont have to just swuirt it on yourself, rub it on him first to get him happy. You can make it fun....GL

FJL10 · June 2010

The only reason I was a bit apprehensive in using lube was because I didn't want to make anything worse by irritating myself even more (I have extremely sensitive skin) even knowing that lube is made to be used for that purpose-I'm just a ninny. This is basically our last resort. He's spent major time talking business down there to get me lubricated, used saliva, and nothing-I dry up very quick.I did go out and buy some sensitive KY jelly today, so we'll see how that holds up tonight! Thanks for the replies

cherrysweetdeal · June 2010

movingwater:

agree 100% just buy a bunch of different kinds of lube and make a night of trying them kind one you really like and go for it.

This. You can buy sample packs of lube to try, everything from waterbased or silicone and flavored!!

meganjane86 · June 2010

I completely understand where you're coming from! I get cysts very easily down there from certain products (some pads, any type of condoms, etc) so I was really weary of using any kind of lube. I've been using the Slumber Party brand Just Like Me for about a year now and it's wonderful! I haven't had any reaction to it, it lasts all night, and you can even use it in the shower : )

You have to find a Slumber Parties rep in your area to order it from, but it's totally worth it.. and they normally have it in their stock so you can get it right away!

mwhitson14 · June 2010

Good luck with the lube, I hope it works out for you! DH was hesitant about using lube to at first (he felt like he was failing in turning me on), but once he got into it, we keep by the bed for every time we have sex.

Damn BCP! Ha.

sedaigle · June 2010

Hello! You may have resolved this already but I thought I would throw in my 2 cents anywa. JIC.

I was on Loestrin before I switched to Ortho Tri Cyclen. I was very unhappy with it. Dryness- Yes. No sex drive- yes. I was also nervous and anxious all the time. I told my doctor this and she said those were symptoms of not enough estrogen. Obviously, all BCP cause some dryness and loss of sex drive. However, things are a little better. I would definitely suggest trying a new pill. A word of caution: I did try one between the Loestrin and Ortho...I cannot remember what it was but it made me break out like crazy (which I never do) because of the higher level of estrogen. Keep trying until you find one that works for you. HTH!

cutsiebuttons33 · June 2010

I was on Loestrin 24 and hated it. It didn't make me dry, but made me bleed heavily for 2 weeks straight (not my period). I literally had to stop taking it because it made me anemic.

anyways, about lube... KY is excellent. my husband and I don't dig the special "his and her" kind of stuff, but the regular KY is really good. Its the same consistency of your "natural lubrication". One thing I might recommend though: you might want to run the container under warm water before you use it... depending on where you store it, it could be chilly... kinda a mood killer.

if you're really anxious about lube though, talk to your doctor, and if you need to, they can make suggestions.

FJL10 · June 2010

Yeah, I've been having issues with Loestrin-not only the dryness but loss of sex drive. I was taking Yaz before but got off of it after a few months because of the crazy mood swings it would give me-I was an emotional wreck the first half I was planning my wedding. At the beginning, the Loestrin seemed to give me my sex drive back, but now it's hardly there. I was thinking about switching to the nuvaring, but I'm very hesitant about the whole insertion process-I mean, I hardly wanted to use the lube (it worked well, and thanks for the warm water tip! it was chilly at first, but you can also work it through your fingers for a bit and that also helps it warm up) so I'm going to discuss that with my doc on the next visit. Apparently, it's better than the pill, but I'll have to do my own research on it.

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