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My old OB strikes again....
UGH..this makes me want to cry and kick and scream..Isn't there anything that moms can do to stop things like this from happening over and over. I'm SSSOOO tired of it.
WARNING..pretty disturbing
This is the 'birth story' of a girl who had her baby last week. The doctor who delivered Luke was her Doctor.
"So I went in on Friday about my rash. I was to the point of crying because I hadn't slept in days I couldn't shower cause it hurt qnd I couldn't put clothes on for that matter. So they admitted me and got a dermatologist to come see me. So they started me on steroids and some other meds to calm the itching and my OB scheduled my induction for Sunday at midnight. It took till Sunday morning for the itiching the mostly subside, I'm still kind of itching today and it could last a couple more weeks too 
Anyway continuing on.
I was induced at midnight that Sunday. They broke my water at around 8:30ish when I was about 2cm...I Went to 5 cm straight away then stayed there till about 4pm. Then I started getting hard contractions and got my epi. It was wonderful. Wasn't feeling a thing and then jumped from 5 to 10 in less than an hour. I was pushing by 5pm and was doing great till my epi wore off. Took 45 mins for the doc to get there to readminister it. We got it fixed and it wore off again within an hour. I'm pushing well. She was about an inch, if that from crowning and then the most emense pain started. It was horrible I was screaming crying histerically.
Finally they call my OB in and she just walks in and doesn't say a word and shoves her hand up me. Let me rephrase from earlier. I thought what I felt earlier was pain, I lied, this was the most emense pain I have EVER felt in my life!! She kept her hand up me, shoving the baby not sayin a word of what she was trying to accomplish. My mom was on my right and Jacob on my left and my sister was holding my right leg. I was histerical, just sadly looking from Jacob to my mom, pushing Jacob away, asking why? Saying I couldn't do it. And begging them to stop. I found out later everyone could hear mr screaming and crying from the waiting room.
Then finally my OB yelled at me. She freaking yelled at me!! My first time in labor my first everything. I had no clue what was going on and she yelled at me!!! She yelled and told me " the crying needs to stop right now!" like I was a 3 year old. Then told me my options were to stop crying and push, stop crying and have a section. Either way the crying had to stop cause she wasn't gonna have a baby hanging half way out of me rolling me to the OR. So as much pain as I was in my fury took over and I stopped crying. I looked at Jacob and I don't know if he could read my eyes but I was screaming inside. I don't remember who told her but someone told her a c-section is what I wanted.
So they got the doctor to come with the epi again. He dosed me twice and then decided it wasn't working well enough so i was going to have to be put completly under for my surgery. This meant I was going to be put to sleep with a tube down my throat, the works, and no one could be in the OR with me, not even Jacob. I was scared and upset. They wheeled me in for surgery at 8:40pm and Ryleigh was born at 8:54pm. It was the worst experience of my life and yeah it was worth it in the end to have my baby girl, but in my opionion my experience was unnecessary and it completly ruined my entire birthing experience "
Re: My old OB strikes again....
Well that hits home for me. Nothing can prepare you for missing out on your child's first moments/hours. It's just not how anyone imagines their child's birth, I know it certainly wasn't for me. Reading that makes me feel so awful for her because I know how bad my experience scarred me, both physically and mentally, and I just know what she's going through right now. I wonder if your old OB has ANY idea what she is putting her patients through. I know I still often wonder if the OB who delivered Andrew has any idea what an impact she made on my life with her unprofessional behavior that day. I'm sure that she doesn't. It's especially disturbing because they are women and they should know how badly an experience like that can effect a woman. Makes me so mad Tiff!
wow. that poor girl!
gina and tiff..have you guys written letters to the practices or to the doctors specifically?
this does not compare at all, but our wedding coordinator totally ruined our day. i can't even think back to the day without getting anxious and angry b/c of the things she did. after the wedding i wrote a very detailed letter explaining her behavior, the things she did and how it ruined our day to the church. I knew not much could be done about what she did to us, but the main point of the letter was to prevent her from doing it to anyone else. we got a very apologetic letter back from the pastor of the church telling us she had been fired and a refund.
You may have already let them know how unhappy you were with your deliveries. But if not, I definitely would. If enough people came forward maybe these people would have to answer for their horrible behavior.
Wow, that is insane! It honestly scares me with all of your horrible experiences about birth. Seriously, what is wrong with people?!
Girls, I would definitely send your letters, and maybe even to your local medical board (if there is such a thing). Im surprised these doctors arent being sued, and my God- who would want these doctors delivering a second and so on baby for them?