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Sex with Injuries
Do you or your significant other have a physical injury that effects your sex life? My husband was wounded during battle when he was serving in the US Army. He has shoulder and back problems. Alot of times i am in the mood but he isn't because he is in to much pain. How do we get around this? he also has a lower sex drive then me, but i know he's not using his injury as an excuse not to have sex with me.
How do you make love when there is a physical injury that comes between the two of you?
Re: Sex with Injuries
Why don't you get on top? Then he can lay there, which I imagine shouldn't be too painful. There is the standard girl on top, and the backwards cowgirl etc.
Are there positions that do not cause him pain? Is the pain constant?
What about sex in an armless chair, like a sturdy dining room chair? You can straddle him and bounce on him. If you like rear entry, you can bend over the couch or the bed. If you still want face to face intercourse, you can lay on your back with your butt on the edge of the bed. PRop your pelvis up on pillows if your bed is not high enough -- you will want to be at penis height. Throw your legs over his shoulders so you are like a giant human L. He shouldn't need to bend over to thrust. You can cross you legs like a 40's pinup or put both of your legs over his good shoulder.
You might also want to invest in the Liberator, a series of foam shapes that might give you some additional positions without straining his back.
I was in a car accident three months ago and have extreme constant lower back pain! It causes a crimp in the sex life My husband has been very understanding, but it kind of creates a hole.
Try being on top with him lying flat with ice underneath the painful area- that helps me a lot.
DH and I both have injuries that we received durring our Army service. Mine is a jacked up knee. He was shot in the shoulder. It was a through and through shot that fractured his shoulder blade and jacked up his rotator cuff. We both have a lot of pain from those injuries still. We don't let that get in our way. We find ways to get around it.
If he is in a lot of pain, you should really see someone about pain management. Is he on pain meds now? If those aren't working, he may need to look into alternatives. A good friend of mine has received a major back injury durring a jump when his chute didn't open. His reserve chute opened 100 ft from the ground. He has major problems with pain. Drugs don't help him at all. The only thing that really helps him is deep tissue massage. He has also tried acupunture and really liked it.
It can be done.
DH had a broken left fib and the local hospital emergency room sent him home. They were not going to call in an X-ray tech outside of the normal Mon-Fri 7-3 shift unless the injury was life threatening.
So much for Canadian universal health care.
He was a sport and after stabilizing his leg on pillows. I rode him forward cowgirl.In fact I did that a lot after his surgery and while wearing the cast. He couldn't run fast enough to get away from me.
So, if he has neck/back problems, then doggy should be a perfect solution. Not the most intimate, but it sure does for a rowdy go-round!
Another alternative that I used a lot when I was heavily pg but unable to be on my back for that long, I'd lay on my side, put my legs forward and let him be on his knees and come in from behind. We could still see and touch each other then.