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Feel like such a loser...
...and I can't quit crying. I feel like a big baby and I feel so stupid and I'm sitting at work where you can hear a pin drop and I NEVER cry...NEVER. It's just something that I've "trained" myself not to do...maybe that's why I can't stop...at least I'm not sobbing...I just can't get my eyes & nose to quit leaking! And it's all over the loss of our marriage certificate.
I've never found it. I look every day (in the same places because I've looked everywhere!) and I've called the bank & the place where we took our truck to get "detailed" and nothing. The Registrar's Office in Jamaica hasn't gotten back to me yet and now my work is refusing to reimburse me for my trip out of town 2 week's ago because my name & address need updated in their financial system (I work for the state so this is an Auditor issue - not a dept or a single person who I can just tell my sob-story to and expect for reimbursement...this is something that I have to deal with when bringing on grantees, so I know their process...and they don't budge). Of course they need my info from my bank...my bank that for some freakin' reason couldn't get my name change corrected the first 2 times I went in there and the whole reason why I had our marriage certificate out (and hence lost it) in the first dang place! Of course we're broke and we were counting on this reimbursement (which does not help matters at all)! And that is where my breaking-point began!
It's even more frustrating because I am always so organized. And my mom has told the family about me losing it and I know them all...hard-telling what all is being said behind my back. I know that sounds horrible to assume about my own family, but I know them way too well. I know that my uncle was even taking bets that I wouldn't even make it down the aisle (he doesn't know that I know that). So I am now guessing that he is full of "this is the end of them" and taking bets on how long we'll last (he did this with my cousin, so I know it's my turn). But that's a whole other issue...
And thanks to anyone who may have read about the little pity-party that I have decided to throw myself today! I just knew that if there was anywhere to turn to vent and for some kind of understanding, this was the place!
I don't think that the 2 cases of beer that I bought to get me through the weekend is going to cut it! I think that it's time to dust off my old whiskey bottle and throw my pity-party the right way...that will bring a smile to my face! Another thing I've never been is a "crying drunk" (we all know one!). Lluckily I'm the opposite...I just get so dang happy! Shoot, I think I cracked a smile just thinking about it! See this is helping and I haven't even hit "Post" yet!
Thanks again for reading my "journal" entry!
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Re: Feel like such a loser...
Ashley & Josh ~ The Reef Resort ~ Grand Cayman~ May 15th 2010
This exactly. I'm sorry Jenni
((hugs)) I'm so sorry Jenni!
Losing or holding onto a marriage license has NO bearing whatsoever on whether or not a marriage will last. Tell your uncle to shove it! I don't know exactly how things work with Jamaica - but hopefully they get back to you soon. Also - did your bank make a copy of your marriage license when you went in the first time? If I were you I would go down there raising all hell until they fixed their problem.
Whiskey sounds like a must.
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Aw Jenni! HUGS and ::::VIBES::: that you find it or that the Registrar gets back to you soon. It will all get worked out.
And your uncle sounds like a fvcking a-hole.
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Lots of hugs!! I hope they get back to you soon about getting a new one. I hate "island time"!
On a side note, your uncle sounds like a real stand up guy
Yeah - when you get your new one, definitely make sure your bank makes a copy. I mean- that's what my bank did. Maybe the laws differ state to state & bank to bank? Who knows! haha.
Also another suggestion would be to see if you can get 2 copies from the registrar in Jamaica. That way you won't ever have this problem again. We keep our marriage license in a safe in our house. Lord knows if DH wasn't a freak (in a good way) about being organized I would have lost our marriage license the day we got it.
I've had those days too where it seems like one bad thing after another happens. It's overwhelming, but try to keep your head up and thinking positive. And sometimes a really hard cry helps relieve some of the pressure. It will all come together and work out eventually. Keep following up with the wedding document people - they are on island time, but probably need some pushes to get with the program.
Lots and lots **hugs** to you.