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Appeal of "coming" on a woman

Hi, just wondering if anyone's dh likes to do this.. come on your face, boobs etc? I kinda like it when its the boobs, but the face makes me kinda uncomfortable. we have been together a long time and he just recently started doing this. For those of you who's husbands do this.. do you like it? and why do they do it? is it just a porn thing?

Thanks!

Re: Appeal of "coming" on a woman

  • If you don't like, you need to let him know. And stand your ground that he won't be doing it again.

    You can certainly say it nicely and let him know what you do like, but there's no reason that you should have to do something that you don't enjoy.

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  • Mu hubby thinks its really "hott" to come on me, and even thinks it's hilarious if I squeal or cringe a little if he comes on my face.  That said, he definitely prefers to come inside me, and unlike the pornos, usually penetrates me when he's ready to come.
  • Once in a while he likes to come on my boobs, but he's never asked to do it on my face. I wouldn't let him anyway...
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  • I don't have a problem if DH wants to come on my face, boobs, etc. But that's OUR relationship. You need to decide how you feel and let your H know. You don't have to let him do any of that if you're not OK with it. I prefer my H to come inside me most of the time, but there are times I just want him to get done, and letting him come on my boobs helps a bit.
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  • Better on me than in me. 
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  • I like it, but it makes DH self-conscious, so he doesn't. 
  • I'm fine with it anywhere but my face.

    You could make a deal with your DH--if you can spit on his face, he can ejaculate on yours.  That might help him to understand your feelings about it.

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  • I have no idea why there is such an appeal for that w/ men! I think I'm like most women here...I'm cool with anywhere but my face. With my luck it would make me break out like crazy lol! He has asked a few times but he knows its one of the things I'm not interested in trying.
  • MotzieMotzie member
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    Totally side eyeing anyone whose husband comes on their face without knowing first that its ok. And if he does it once and you don't like it, there should never be a second time.
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    imageMotzie:
    Totally side eyeing anyone whose husband comes on their face without knowing first that its ok. And if he does it once and you don't like it, there should never be a second time.
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  • If it makes you uncomfortable you should tell him. It's okay if you don't like it and don't want him to do it. The problem would be if he knows you don't like it but does it anyway.

    I would be more concerned if you felt like you couldn't talk to him about this. 

  • imagesetm2323:
    Mu hubby thinks its really "hott" to come on me, and even thinks it's hilarious if I squeal or cringe a little if he comes on my face.  That said, he definitely prefers to come inside me, and unlike the pornos, usually penetrates me when he's ready to come.

    Ok Set....there is some serious problem if your DH thinks its hilarious when you cringe. That's just plain cruel to me. Why is the world would you let that continue?!?!?!?! Makes no sense to me at all!

    OP...you need to "man up" and speak your mind. You don't want him to *** (not come) in your face then speak up. It's not just about him!

    I dated a guy once that wanted to do that where ever he was allowed, he couldn't explain why he thought it was hot. All he could say is "it just is"

  • imageMotzie:
    Totally side eyeing anyone whose husband comes on their face without knowing first that its ok. And if he does it once and you don't like it, there should never be a second time.

    This, so much.

    I like taking it on me, face included, but I expect to be told just so I know and I don't open my eyes to cack, balls, and shooting ejaculate.

    It's not really about 'why' people like it.. everyone has different sexual tastes, it's what you feel comfortable with and communicating that with your partner.

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  • Apparently my previous statement wasn't phrased quite the way I meant it to be.  I have no problem if DH comes on me, especially since I know it turns him on.  (I actually think it's kind of hot, too, to be honest.)  However, even though he always lets me know beforehand, when it first hits me it always surprises me a bit, causing me to cringe.  This reaction usually causes me to end up laughing as well!  It's a funny way to end a passionate bout of sex!

    My DH has always been respectful of me both in and out of the bedroom.  He has always made a point to ask before doing something for the first time.  And I always try to be open to to trying out new things, but if I end up not liking it, he has and would never push me to do it again.  That's just one of the many reasons why I married him!

     

     

     

  • imageMotzie:
    Totally side eyeing anyone whose husband comes on their face without knowing first that its ok. And if he does it once and you don't like it, there should never be a second time.

    Word.

     

  • DH loves coming on my face, but im not a fan. i refuse to let him when i have makeup on. im weird like that. sometimes i will if i dont have any on, but i dont normally like it. he loves it.
  • My DH likes to on my face as well (not often, just when we're in the shower together). When he first said he wanted to do this, I was a little turned off at the thought. But, once he did it, I really got into it... his facial expression was obvious at how much he enjoyed it.. which made me enjoy it too.

    And yes, I think it's a porn thing. I'm pretty sure that's where my DH got the idea.

  • imageabrowneyedgirl4:
    I have no idea why there is such an appeal for that w/ men! I think I'm like most women here...I'm cool with anywhere but my face. With my luck it would make me break out like crazy lol! He has asked a few times but he knows its one of the things I'm not interested in trying.

    Now that's funny because that's exactly how I feel. My DH would love too, he's kinky like that... NO THANK YOU. I saw a porno with a girl that had it all over her face and it looked so disgusting!!

  • imageabrowneyedgirl4:
    I have no idea why there is such an appeal for that w/ men! I think I'm like most women here...I'm cool with anywhere but my face. With my luck it would make me break out like crazy lol! He has asked a few times but he knows its one of the things I'm not interested in trying.

    Now that's funny because that's exactly how I feel. My DH would love too, he's kinky like that... NO THANK YOU. I saw a porno with a girl that had it all over her face and it looked so disgusting!!

  • You're the poster whose DH is super into porn and you're against it, right?  Isn't he kind of a self-centered dud in general, too?
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  • My DH has NEVER done this, and we're going on 6 yrs here. I think it's gross and so does he. 
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  • My DH like to do it too... but usually he will give me the choice lol he will ask where i want it... I think he just likes the act of doing it and doesnt care where it is.
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  • Another good place is on your back. I actually think it's really sexy when my H does that. Maybe if you feel uncomfortable with him cumming on your face, next time he asks if he can you could say "I really want you to *** on my back (or ass)" and instead of feeling like he's been turned down he'll have been redirected in a positive way. Then, outside of the heat of the moment you can say "I really love what we tried last night. I'm not a huge fan of you cumming on my face but it was a turn on when you did it on my back." HTH!
  • If he does something you don't like, you should tell him. Same goes for him if you do something he doesn't like. Communication when it comes to sex is very, very important.

    And FWIW, my husband has never asked to come on my face. Frankly, he would rather come IN me than anywhere else. 

  • imagedirtyred:

    I'm fine with it anywhere but my face.

    You could make a deal with your DH--if you can spit on his face, he can ejaculate on yours.  That might help him to understand your feelings about it.

     

    I got one better.. if you don't want him to *** in your face, he can just *** on his g/f''s face... if you spit on him, I hope he throws you clear accross the room.

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