January 2010 Weddings
Noron
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January 2, 2010
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Almost 6 months - a poll!
1. What did you think would change after you got married?
2. What ACTUALLY changed after you got married?
3. What's been the best part of being married thus far?
4. How many times have you heard the question, "how's married life?"
5. What is your answer when someone asks you the above question?
BONUS! Which was your favorite: dating life, engaged life, or married life?
January 2, 2010
EDD October 10, 2013
Re: Almost 6 months - a poll!
1. What did you think would change after you got married? Just my name. We lived together for 3 years, had combined accounts and owned a condo together - I couldn't imagine anything would change.
2. What ACTUALLY changed after you got married? Nothing big, but it definitely feels...different. In a totally good way! Like...we're more established, settled, connected...? I don't know how to describe it, but I LOVE it!
3. What's been the best part of being married thus far? Not having a wedding to plan/throw money at!
4. How many times have you heard the question, "how's married life?" Roughly 5,000,000.
5. What is your answer when someone asks you the above question? "So much better than engaged life!"
BONUS! Which was your favorite: dating life, engaged life, or married life? I know it's only been 6 months, but I hated engaged life and dating life was...meh...so MARRIED LIFE! Hands down.January 2, 2010
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1. What did you think would change after you got married? I did not think that that much would change except that we would actually be living together not just "shacking up" on the weekends as my family liked to say.
2. What ACTUALLY changed after you got married? We did not live together before so that was a change. I did stay over his place often but it was the not same as actually having a place of our own. My name is in the process of being change, I'm still getting used to it when people call me by it. When we stay at my parents house we actually get to sleep in the same bed which is nice.
3. What's been the best part of being married so far? Waking up every morning next to each other and being able to see each other everyday even if it is only to watch tv or something. Our schedules are so busy during the week.
4. How many times have you heard the question, "how's married life?" - A decent amount but pretty much just when people first saw us after the wedding. Now we are getting the question of "is there anything that you should tell us about or sometimes just so when are you planning on having kids?" I don't really mind the children question b/c we do want to start trying in a few months, I think it will bother me if we are having trouble trying TTC
5. What is your answer when someone asks the above question? lol ok so I guess the reason why I don't do good on tests is b/c I don't answer the question correctly! I combined this answer in the above question
6. BONUS! What was your favorite: dating life, engaged life. or married life? I really enjoyed all parts of our relationship. I def. think that we did more things when we were dating b/c we didn't have to worry about saving for a house and all of those other grown up responsibilities. Married life is def. the best though. Its great to see how our relationship has grown and how we are our own family now!
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1. What did you think would change after you got married?
I wouldnt be living with my parents anymore, my name, I wouldn't be able to shop as much as I did before haha.
2. What ACTUALLY changed after you got married?
all of the above.
3. What's been the best part of being married thus far?
having DH there to support me through everything. I never thought I'd be going through the things I have in the past few months.
4. How many times have you heard the question, "how's married life?"
actually, not too many. Maybe I just block it out haha
5. What is your answer when someone asks you the above question?
usually "good" with a huge sigh...it has nothign to do with our relationship though.
BONUS! Which was your favorite: dating life, engaged life, or married life? hmm this is hard. while we were dating, it was carefree, but were were constantly arguing about money. DH worked full time all through college, and put himself through undergrad and grad school without any loans, which I totally respect now, but I just didnt get it then.
Engaged life went so fast (8 months), and I was planning a wedding, starting grad school, starting my first year of teaching at all once, so I was the most stressed I had ever been.
Married life is wonderful in the fact that DH is always here for me, supports me so much, does so much around the appt and everything...but the whole job thing has just been sooo much stress. Literally, I found out about my job situation 3 days after we got married, so the whole marriage has just been stress. It doesnt help that I'm the primary provider, so that's totally freaking me out!
however, I will say married life because as a couple, we're so much more relaxed and fun!
1. What did you think would change after you got married? Getting to see H more, name change, selling my house, and more time to focus on schooling.
2. What ACTUALLY changed after you got married? Got my name changed, rented my house instead of getting is sold, didn't get to see my hubby more as he's on second shift and I am on first.
3. What's been the best part of being married thus far? Being with the hubby all the time and not living out of a suitcase. I stayed with him on the weekends before we were married and couldn't wait till the day we got married so I don't have to shuffle between houses. And the savings account is growing.
4. How many times have you heard the question, "how's married life?" Too many times than I want to hear. I rather hear that then when are the kids coming, which I have been asked a lot, also.
5. What is your answer when someone asks you the above question? "Awesome!" or 'Love it". The 'other' question I try to ignore as it's none of their business. And seeing I am the oldest of my siblings and the last to have children, I dreaded the question , but at the same time I expeced it in a way (nature of the family, ugh!).
BONUS! Which was your favorite: dating life, engaged life, or married life? I would say married life. We had talked about this a month after we were married and we both felt more relaxed than before. We absolutely love, love married life.
oh, hai, it is 6 months for us today. haha
1. What did you think would change after you got married?
name change and moving forward with the rest of our lives. we werent anticipating any real changes since we had already been living together for a few years.
2. What ACTUALLY changed after you got married?
my name and moving forward with the rest of our lives. life stayed the same, just continued to progress in its natural direction. it feels different, but its hard to describe.
3. What's been the best part of being married thus far?
hearing myself referred to as his wife
4. How many times have you heard the question, "how's married life?"
oh, only 4974689 times. my dad asked me this morning. good grief.
5. What is your answer when someone asks you the above question?
it's good, same as before but with a new name..did you expect me to say it's horrible and the worst thing ever?!
BONUS! Which was your favorite: dating life, engaged life, or married life?
dating for sure! it was so much easier then. there was still so much excitement, no worries, more money, more time, less stress.
I can't believe the year is half over! Time is flyin!
1. What did you think would change after you got married?Name change, secks life (we waited til after marriage), not too much else since we'd lived together for 2 years 2. What ACTUALLY changed after you got married?All of the aboveBONUS! Which was your favorite: dating life, engaged life, or married life?
Married life hands down! Dating was excellent, being engaged was great, but married life is awesome. It's great hearing/saying 'husband/wife', it's so awesome being even more connected now. It's so hard to describe the feeling, but it's absolutely amazing
Ok, I HAVE to ask - how did you wait for marriage while living together for 2 years? You both must have the strongest willpower ever!
January 2, 2010
EDD October 10, 2013
We waited too. We were together three and a half years before getting engaged, then another year plus some for planning. We never lived together but during college we spent almost all nights together either at his place or mine. There were other things to do IYKWIM.
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wow girls! I give you a lot of credit, and really respect you for your decision!
Especially for living together! DH and I waited 4 months..and I thought that was long!
THIS. I have a friend who is in a serious relationship right now and is waiting. I know that decision was not for me, but I have to give you all tons of credit. DH and I were talking about it the other day because we had only been together 3 months before we started sleeping together, and I was like "wow, I was a little hoochie, wasn't I?" lol.
sometimes I think that, but then I feel better because DH is my one and only...so at least I married him! haha
Wow! Good for you guys!
Alise and Ashley, I won't even tell you how long we waited...but neither of you are hoochies! Of course, I have a bit of a checkered past, so maybe that makes me the hoochie...? Ha!
January 2, 2010
EDD October 10, 2013
Ditto. He had been with other people, but I haven't. And Noron - there are some days that I wish I had been with a few other people before we got married, just for curiosity's sake...Flameful, I know.
This same thing word for word...haha. people can flame us both.
We live more as roommates when we lived together pre-marriage. He had his room upstairs and I had mine downstairs. Sometimes we slept in the same bed, but it was just sleeping. We made the promise to each other about 4 months into our relationship, and we were together for 3 years before we got married. Like panda...there were always other things to do IMO.
You're all great big hoochies in my book
Thank you to those who say they respect our decision. I hate those women on the sex and romance board who bad mouth anyone who decides they want to wait. They think that you can't have a good marriage unless you have perfect sex before you get married. I'm sorry, but there is a LOT more to marriage than sex. At some point in your marriage, you're not going to be able to have sex (for medical reasons, old age, accidental castration, who knows what could happen!) and there's got to be something there to keep you going other than sex.
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I agree with everything you said Panda
And thanks again to everyone who said that they respected our decision.