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Am I right not to rat out my boss? (long, sorry)
I was b!tching a few weeks ago about how unhappy I am at my job and how it felt like my "boss" and "senior coworker" (there are only 3 in the office) were trying to run me off and are just unprofessional, unethical and underhanded in general. Well, the good news is that my boss told me Wednesday afternoon that starting yesterday I would be in a different office. Woohoo!
The reasons she gave were that the new office I'm working in needed somebody with certain skills I possess to help out in areas in which they are struggling, as well as her needing to hire a new person and wanting that person to be in the office I was at, so she could train them. Whatever the reason, I was just happy to be going to an office where the people aren't slimy and I'll have less direct contact with the boss.
Skip to today, when I go to the old office to pick up a package that had been delivered for me there. The office is locked with a "gone to lunch" sign and I let myself in. "Senior coworker's" daughter is sitting at my desk and the rest of the office is empty. I pryed and come to find out that she is the person being trained and will be looking for a job elsewhere when "boss" is done training her. Nepotism with nothing in it for us = majorly shady! And this is just the most recent in a long line of such behavior and actions, some of which I feel are detrimental to the company as a whole.
So, I'm tempted to call up boss's boss and tactfully let him know some of my concerns. But the more rational-seeming side of me says that they'll both sink their own ships eventually, be glad I'm not so directly involved anymore and take my fresh start. The only reason I can think that I should let on (other than the ego-driven ones) is that when the sh!t hits the fan, I don't want to be seen as somebody who is complacent at best and shady at worst. 
Of course, I could always just send an anonymous email 
So I put it to the Nesties, tell or no?
Re: Am I right not to rat out my boss? (long, sorry)
I dunno, that's a hard one. As much as i would want to tell, I'm more of a person that would just b!tch about it at home.
my only advice would be, what would you gain from telling your boss's boss? And/or what would lose (or gain) from not telling?
Are you looking for another job? Do you have other career aspirations or are you with a company you want to be with for a while? I think these answers would inform my decision.
That said, I'm still not sure I'd tell. You never know the politics between business relationships. Who's to say that evil!boss and her boss aren't BFFs. Or if evil!boss would throw you under the bus to save her own ass if you go to her superior. Until I had more certainty about these things, I'd keep my head down and just make sure that I'm practicing an impeccable work ethic, so that evil!boss could say nothing against me.
Is your company pretty small? And how is your boss regarded compared to other people at her level?
My main concerns would be not being evaluated equally when it comes to raises, job responsibilities if she's got some pets underneath her. Not sure how it is in your company, but we actually have policies against family members working in the same group, but its a big company.
In the same aspect, I'd be cautious if you choose to talk to your boss. I'm guessing small office = lots of politics.
I'd keep my mouth shut - even if you don't plan on staying with this particular company much longer, the world is really small and you might come across these people again in the future.
my motto is - always leave a job in good terms (if you can help it, that is).
I'd say it depends -- if you want a future with this company and you're not ready to possibly have to look for another job, I probably wouldn't say anything and would just feel glad to get away from those people. Not that you'd necessarily get fired for telling on them or anything, but who knows how these people could make your job harder for you, even at your new office, if they figure out you're the one who tipped off their boss to some shady dealings. On the other hand, you might tell someone just to find out they already know about this and approved it, so nothing happens.
Anyway. If it were me, I think I'd tell someone, if I was sure it wouldn't blow back on me or if I might be ready to get out of that work situation anyway. Good luck!