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Thoughts on participating in 3-or-4somes?
My husband and I are seriously discussing. We are a very secure couple.
Thanks!
Re: Inviting others?
MUD But if it's not then...
Bad idea. I wouldn't want to see my husband having sex with anyone else and vise versa. Sorry I can't give you more help.
ETA: When has sex with a stranger ever been awesome anyway?
MUD.
Why not make it a ten some and have an orgy?
Honestly, I having been thinking about posting this exact same question. I want to try it so badly, but I know in the end it would damage our relationship. We would lose some of the intimacy we have an I do not believe a one time experience is worth that.
We've dicussed it a lot and decided that we both just want to experiement and make sex more interesting (which is tough because it's VERY interesting to begin with.) We decided buying toys is a much better way to spice things up.
It's one thing to want to sleep with other people, it's another to want to share another person WITH your partner. It's a totally different desire and doesn't mean you find your partner inadequate. I actually see it as a mark of sexual maturity. If both people want to do it and can handle it emotionally, I don't see why they should have to "sacrifice" anything.
Somehow, my bf and I have started exploring this. We started by Having fun with another girl, and slowly moved further and further together with our adventures. We eventually started playing with another couple, and again moved further and further with what we did with them.
the key to all of this, and everything we do is that we are doing it together! It's not he's having sex with another girl, it becomes were having sex with her. We stay together, talk about it, our communication is the biggest part. In all of it, he knows I'm the only one that matters, and same with me. Were only having sex with them, and what we do is making love. It makes everything between us so much hotter, and we know we have this trust that is more than we could had imagined.
Now, like others have said- you must talk about everything. You cannot go into it not know what the other expects and what they are comfortable with. You must respect eachothers boundaries and wishes.
Safety is a must. We've learned there is a whole community with people living similar lives. frequesnt testing and taking all the right precautions are always in place.
SOrry this was long.
Every time I have heard about 3+somes, it has ended with disaster.
But if you feel this is something you want to do, first make sure your okay with seeing your man be intimate with another woman. If your the jealous type, probably wont work out so well.
I honesty don't see the point of bringing another person into a committed relationship, something between two people. Three's a crowd and all that. I just don't see how it could help a relationship in anyway. I would never want to see my husband look at another person the way he looks at me.
agree!