prostate infections = no sex

My husband suffers from chronic prostate infections. Symptoms of this condition include pain in the groin area, difficulty urinating, and difficulty maintaining an erection. Antibiotics usually clear it right up. I understand that this is just a medical confition and he can't help it, but it really bothers me how he deals with it. Usually he will ignore it and hide it from me and refuse to go to the dr until it is unbearable for him.

The worst part about it is how it affects our sex life. When he gets an infection, he becomes unable to maintain an erection. But instead of telling me about it and going to the dr for antibiotics, he just acts like he doesn't want sex...for months at a time. He even ruined our wedding night because he had been having symptoms for months before the wedding and didn't want to go to the dr. So on our wedding night, he just acted like he didn't want me, which started a big fight and hours later he finally admitted it was because of another prostate infection. It makes me so mad because he could have gone to the dr and gotten it taken care of and we could have had a great wedding night. But instead, we had a huge fight...Not great memories...

When he finally talks about it, he tells me how it makes him feel like less of a man, since he can't perform sexually. I completely understand this, but I don't understand why he ignores it and just feels bad instead of going to the dr and getting antibiotics. Every time it happens, he promises me if it happens again he will tell me right away and go to the dr. But once again, we haven't had sex in over a month and he finally admitted it was because he was having symptoms again.

I feel like i have been caring and understanding every time this happens, but he still refuses to confide in me immediately and refuses to go to the dr before we start having problems in the bedroom. I don't know what to do!