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Sex lacking in newlywed marriage
Both my husband and I are two healthy and active individuals in our mid-20s. I am a very sexual woman, but my husband (of 1 yr) is completely opposite. We have been together for 2 1/2 yrs, married for 1 yr. Our sex life has always been somewhat lacking, but only now have I really noticed it. We only have sex about 5 times a month! We have 2 kids, 7 and 4, we're both employed, and everything is going fine, except for our sex life. I've tried talking to him about it, and all he says is that all I want to do is have sex. I can't help it, my husband is hot!!! I don't know, it's like I'm the guy and he's the girl when it comes to our sex life. Please help!!!
Re: Sex lacking in newlywed marriage
. Our sex life has always been somewhat lacking, but only now have I really noticed it.
Nope. You mean you thought he would change into a in insatiable raving sexual animal once that piece of jewelry got slipped onto his finger.
And bear in mind that once you're together for awhile, passion wanes...and so can the frequency of your sex life.
This is normal part of living together and being married...Its just that you cannot get lazy about your sexual relationship...You gotta turn off the tv ,get off the computer and set the mood: put some romatic music on, get freshly showered and start with some foreplay and take your time touching and carresing each other..
..you may have to set a specific time or something like that.....its easy to get caught up in other things...make your sex life a priority! If laundry and cooking and grocery shopping is a priority...so is making love to your partner.....
Agree with this 100%.. People focus too much on it. There are other aspects of a marriage if you don't have in order why bother with sex.
Definitely agree with this. And the other ladies have some good tips as well. You could also try talking to him about how you feel. Good communication is part of a healthy marriage as well.
Agree. It always surprises me how many people expect something to magically change after marriage whether it be sex, household chores, or wanting a baby etc.
RAWR!
I can totally relate to you. DH just doesn't initiate sex. He's okay with doing it once or twice a month. He's also in residency right now, meaning he works 60-70 hours a week, which doesn't help!
Also he was a virgin when we got married, so he's not used to having sex on a regular basis. I'm the total opposite..all of my past relationships included frequent and great sex, so of course I miss that.
I've tried a bunch of different things, but nothing really helps.