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annoying IL vent. long. sorry.
GAH my ILs are obnoxious.
Friday morning my phone rings and it's FIL. Being that K was oot for work I figured that he was calling me to get ahold of K. So, I answer. FIL says
"Hey girl, I'm coming over early Sunday morning and we can BBQ and spend the day together. OH! and I bought 2 carseats for my truck so now I can take the babies. My friend...just a friend....has a 2 year old, so I got 2 seats instead of just one."
yes, he said all of that w/o taking a breath. At first I was thinking WHAT?! and then I was thinking, You are crazy if you think you're taking my kids anywhere. And you have a FRIEND w/ a 2 year old...crap thats gonna suck, but I said "Ok. well I guess I'll see you on Sunday."
So I text Kelvin to tell him that his dad just invited himself over on Sunday, so he needs to call him and make a plan. In the long run K told his dad he couldn't come on Sunday b/c K was working. Not working the weekends screws up K's overtime. SO, they make a plan for FIL to come over on Wednesday...yay....I need to find out more about this friend w/ a 2 year old that needs carseats for FILs truck....aaahhhhh...
SO THEN.......
MIL had asked me earlier in the week if we wanted to go to a 4th of july celebration on Saturday night with her, GMIL, BIL and SIL. The fireworks started at 9:30 at a park that's at least 30 minutes away not counting traffic. I told her I'd let her know.
K ends up coming home from working oot on Friday night and I told him about the event. He says he would rather not go b/c it will be so late when we get back and he has leave for work Sunday morning at 4:30 am.
Saturday morning V wakes up w/ a nasty croupy cough, it's cloudy and supposed to rain off and on all day, so that does it. I decide we aren't going to the celebration.
I send MIL a fb msg that says something like. "I don't think we are going to make it tonight. Vivi woke up with a croupy cough and I don't think she should be out in the nasty weather. Plus, K has to work early in the morning and it will be late when we get back. Thanks for the invite. hope you have a good time.'
I didn't hear back from her, she never called. I didn't even think about it.
Fast forward to Sunday, Vivi is feeling fine, the cough is gone, Kelvin ends up getting 1/2 the day off, we bbqed w/ bff and then we went to a fireworks show that lasted 20 minutes and was 5 minutes from home.
WELL, of course FIL has something to say about us ending up having a bbq on sunday, but K's able to talk him down b/c he's coming tomorrow and knows that sometimes K's work is unpredictable.
Then yesterday morning I have a FB msg from MIL that says, "I hope you had fun at the fireworks last night...." That's IT. That's all it said....WTF?! I was annoyed b/c I know she's trying to make me feel back from either not inviting her or not going on Saturday w/ them.
And then... last night I went grab a quick bite to eat w/ my sister and the kids b/c her FI was oot working and K was working late. BIL post on my status, "Glad Vivi is feeling better that you are taking her to El-Paso.." What he's really saying is : 'So, you can't come to the fireworks w/ us but you can go eat out at el-paso"
UGGGHHHHH...I KNOW that those are not sincere. They are being A-holes trying to make me feel bad b/c I didn't go on Saturday. They don't ever care any other time the kids aren't feeling well no matter what we are doing.
I refuse to stop posting what's going on w/ us on FB in fear that it will hurt their feelings. They can get over it! Our lives don't revolve around them. They live 25 mintues away, but WE always have to go to them. Now that MIL and BIL live next to each other...yes..next door..ugh...we can't just visit MIL w/o seeing BIL and SIL and honestly I don't want my kids around BIL and SIL..espcially at any sort of celebration b/c I KNOW they will be either drunk or high or both.
Passive aggressive comments drive me nuts. Just call me out if you THINK you know what's going on. I hate to feel like I need to censor myself to avoid confentation w/ them. I'm pretty stubborn like that.
That's all.....sorry this turned into a novel...thanks for reading. yay for
batsh!tcrazy in-laws!
Re: annoying IL vent. long. sorry.
This makes me thankful for some very good inlaws (even though G's Brother's wife is a nutcase (but not as nutty as yours).
I would just ignore them and if they have issues then they need to get over it. To be honest I would not want my kids around that crazyness anyway.
I wouldn't sensor anything as I enjoy keeping up with what everyone is doing and all that
That really sucks, Tiff! Maybe I should be thankful that my IL's just aren't interested in Chase. Sounds better than what you had to deal with this past weekend!
(((hugs)))