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I need advice.
My mom and I are usually superclose. Well in the last 2 weeks that has changed tremendously.
She is getting a divorce as of the 22cd of June. She met a guy on the 19th and then decided she wanted to leave her husband. She is majorly falling for this guy and does not care what the reprocotions are. It is my lil brothers girlfriends dad. They are both upset over it and she doesnt care at all. She gave him a guilt trip about always putting us kids first and its her turn to be happy, blah blah blah. It upset him he started crying and said ya fine do what ever.
I feel bad for her husband he is the only guy that has been a real father figure to me (they met when i was 15). One more thing I should quickly mention my mom has been divorced 6 times already with my real father being the first husband (so I've been through alot of *** growing up). I told her on Saturday I feel bad for SD and don't think she should be getting serious with anyone right now especially since she is not evn divored yet. That got her mad and she hung up on me. We had a family gathering at my uncles that night and she didn't say a word to me.
I talked to her tonight and she called me a b!tch and said I need to grow up about her situation. Um, excuse me, what?!?! I am concerned for my children for one. They are losing the only constant grandpa they have and I dont want my kids to grow with a new grandpa every year or two like I had to grow up with a new SD every year or two. She was pissed about that too, she said "So I guess I wont see you for a year or so then!" We were supposed to go to a Hens game this Sun with her and she invited new bf and she told me tonight she doesnt care if we go, she is having her bf go and if we cant deal with it too bad cause he is coming no matter what.
I just honestly dont know what to do. I am so upset over this, I came home crying tonight. She has been the only one that has been there for Joe and I through everything (as many of you know we do not have his family in our lives and my real dad and I are just not close).
So what do you think? Am I just being stupid or what? Thanks and sorry so long!
Re: I need advice.
Wow, what a tough situation. I think your mom is being very immature in the way that she's handling everything and you have every right to be upset with her. As far as your step-dad goes I think that if you want to continue to have a relationship with him, you should. Your kids see him as a grandfather and it's not fair to them to take that away. I still see my moms ex husband and he and my mom have been divorced for over 10 years.
As far as how to deal with your mom I am at a loss there. Hopefully she realizes how hard she's making things on everyone else...
what a crappy situation. I'm sorry.
It's one thing for her and SD to divorce - that happens. But it's another thing for her to just expect the family to forget old SD and completely accept the new guy, like it's nothing.
OMGosh Monica what a horrible situation!
I too would not "ruin" the relationship with your step dad. It sounds like you love him and in all sense of the word he is your dad! Continue the relationship w/ grandpa for the kids! They love him and I would never take that away from them.
As for the new guy .. I probably would just say this is grandma's new friend. I wouldn't go out of my way to spend time w/ him though. If he is at a function then so be it. She is your mom and I think everything (your relationship w/ her etc.) will ok in the long run.
Your siggy pic's are adorable! Addie looks just like you!
Yep I too would continue a relationship with your SD unless there is a reason that YOU have not too.