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Fights/Arguments...
The other thread I posted got me thinking.. we did a lot of discussing about fights and whatnot BEFORE the weddings, and definitely decided most of them stemmed from wedding-related things or stress from planning, etc. So now, it's been almost a month for a bunch of us (although only 1 1/2 wks for some, so maybe too soon!), and I'm wondering if the fights/arguments/disagreements have picked back up or if it was definitely wedding-related as we all thought! 
Granted, if some of your haven't lived together, you may NOW be going through the "moving in together" fights instead! :-D
Granted, if some of your haven't lived together, you may NOW be going through the "moving in together" fights instead! :-D
Re: Fights/Arguments...
This is kind of a ridiculous thing to argue about, but since the wedding we've been constantly battling over what temperature to keep the bedroom. We lived together before, so it's not like this is new to us. DH does not mind sleeping in a warm room, while I on the other hand like it cooler. But it's gotten REALLY hot here and I was dying from heat, while DH was turning the AC off because he thought it was too noisy. I ended up sleeping on the couch one night...ugh. But we got another air conditioner that is not as noisy, and I convinced DH to wear earplugs so the noise of the AC wouldn't wake him up. It's still a little warmer in there than I'd prefer, but he left the AC on all night last night and we both slept well.
Ah, compromise
Before wedding... we were among the couples who were arguing a lot. Mostly over stupid stuff, which usually means it's just a stress argument. It sucked and put a lot of stress on our relationship!
After wedding... it's been almost a month and we haven't argued once!! He was a jerk a couple nights ago, but it was just him being snappy/irritated, there was no return snappiness, so he went to bed, and then woke up being sorry! We still definitely have work stress, but nothin we can't handle! It's very nice, I must say.
I was thinking about this, too. Haven't had one fight since the wedding.
*knock on wood*
Looking back, it seems silly, but I guess I can blame it on the wedding stress, planning, etc.
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I like to fight. Work stress piles up on me and I just have to yell and blow off steam lol. He's cool with it! We each have different ways of dealing with our stress and we've had a long time to get used to it. (His tantrums can be annoying, but everyone needs to blow off steam some way or another)
We've lived together for almost 5 years, so there aren't any growing pains there, and we haven't fought since the wedding but psh, give me time! Just went back to work today so give me another couple of weeks.... hahahaha
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uhh we dont fight....and by "we" i mean that together we do not fight. i yell/complain/gripe but he doesnt give me any back.and then i yell at him for that hahahaha
he apologizes approx once an hour whether or not there's anything to fight about or apologize for. i'll sneeze and ask for a tissue and he'll apologize because he waited for me to ask (i'm a dry sneezer who sneezed 5 times everyday and i generally dont need tissues...but he still apologizes).
he's about as considerate as it gets.
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uh hellz yeah!! i would say that this is an example of something to be furious with those family members at! i hope your H is going to have a talk with those family members. and it's good that you weren't furious with him over it.
We had a few quips but it was over some silly things (where to hang this, what to do about this) so there really wasn't any arguing. Our AC went out for a bit and we got a bit testy due to the heat most likely. We don't really argue very much though. If we do get into a rather terse discussion it's usually about something rather important- like when I got laid off and what I was going to do. I wanted to just take whatever I could get and work as much as I could but DH wanted me to look for something a lot more rewarding no matter the hours or pay. I was afraid it wouldn't bring in any income though...
Anyway, off subject. That didn't matter in the end anyway since I got called back lol but that's the kind of thing we'd really argue about. Nothing since the wedding
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Ditto. D is really easy going and doesn't like to make waves, ever. He has a lot more patience than I do.
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This!
This is us too. He is so dang easy going, and I'm a little, well, not. I can have a major (or minor), melt down pretty quickly over really dumb things, and he just lets me get it out.
We fight about money a lot. He likes to spend when he has it, and I keep trying to tell him that we're never going to have money if that's what he wants to do.
For the most part a lot of our stupid fights have subsided... but we do argue a lot. It is kind of in our nature... I know I get snooty sometimes, and he gets defensive, so we will never be a non-arguing/fighting couple. Its just not us.
However, I know for a fact that when either of us are stressed, we fight way more often. So as long as we both work to keep stress levels to a minimum things are much more peaceful. And that is something we BOTH have to continue to work on for the rest of our lives. Its just a matter of fact.
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