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Full time job/ scheduling wifely crap?
Ladies, I have an issue. I work 50+ hours a week and I generally fail at the housewifey shiit. Chris cleans during the week, and cooks more often than I (though I always do the fancy cooking- as fancy as we get, that is- and the deep cleaning. H thinks fairies scrub the toilet and gnomes wash the sheets)?
Anyway, it sucks. I always alwaysalways get home at the VERY least 2 hours after him. And when I get home at 7-8pm I'm so not up for cleaning or cooking!?
How do you schedule your full time job and playing house?
AND- do you have any super quick vegetarian recipes? (That won't make me, Mrs Scared-of-the-kitchen cringe?)?
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I try to make dinners for the work week on Sunday and then freeze or refrigerate them and then all T has to do is stick them in oven.
Vegetarian tacos/burritos/fajitas etc. are my no-brainer veggie meal. Just add more beans and rice and take out the meat from any recipe.
I do all of my wifely stuff on the weekends. I have not really had a weekend to do it yet, but that's usually when I have time to clean the house.
You got me on the vegetarian stuff.
When it comes to the cleaning, I don't usually do it during the week when I work. H never cleans (he takes out the trash. It's his only chore!), but he cooks a lot. I do the cleaning on weekends usually, except the dishes, which I keep up with after dinner most every day.
I don't have anything super fancy, but... As for quick veggie recipes, homemade pizza is always quick.
I use frozen bread dough (put a loaf in the fridge in the morning so it's thawed) then you can spread it out and put sauce, cheese, and whatever veggies you want! We love it! Another veggie meal we eat a lot burrito stuff (we live in AZ! we are all about the mexican stuff!). We do bean burritos, or stuff (burritos, etc) wtih eggs (eggs, veggies like mushrooms, onions, peppers, etc). We also do soyrizo (charizo, but soy style!) here and there, and love the taste!
None of it's gourmet, but it's all yummy and filling.. I'll post more if I think of it.
ditto britt on the mexican inspired dishes- i'll have DH do the prep and i'll come home and cook the main deal (beans/meat).
Either that or i'll give him instructions for a crockpot meal.
I do make large quantities of a couple meals on days i only work 5-6 hours so that there's heavier lunch stuff to brown-bag (since my "lunch" time is usually around 5pm), and then DH makes a salad or something really light and simple for "dinner" at 10pm.
Since he only works two days a week he's responsible for the cleaning, laundry and dishes. We grocery shop together, but if we're out of something DH grabs it. I do the heavy cleaning when i have time. I'm basically a terrible wife. minus the fact that i have two jobs no days off and i'm by far the bread winner. lol
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I do not clean M-F. Period. Children suck the life out of me, and H came to terms with that long ago. Along with me falling asleep before 11:00 every night (I'm like a gremlin).
I will clean and do laundry on Saturdays. I usually only deep clean once a month. Honestly, the way to find time to really get your house clean is to plan a party or have company. Our house never gets cleaner.
H and I both LOLed at the toilet gnome!
ETA: I do cook through the week and have many easy weeknight meals in my pocket, but we are mostly a meat household, so I can't help much with recipes.
ETA: I don't consider picking up the same as cleaning. I do this daily and ask H to do the same.
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Girl I fail at wifely duties.
Like some of the girls, I work 60+ hours a week between my full time job and part time business. Before the wedding for about 3 months I was pulling 80+ hours a week (yuck)
But I do love cooking especially when I have someone to cook for, so im trying to get my part time business down to 10-15 hours a week.
H isn't working right now because its his summer break. But he is lookign for a job until he starts up his job again. He does a lot of the cooking, but like you, hippie, he doesn't do much fancy stuff. I usually do the fancy stuff. I try to do everything like the other girls, on my days off. And then we eat leftovers for a few days.
I have been learning to make bigger meals though, because I make something expecting like 3 days of lunches, and because H is a big fattie eater, it lasts like a day and a half lol.
Cleaning is usually my job, because H sucks at it. But he does pitch in here and there and will vacuum and do dishes and stuff once in awhile.
I can't wait to be able to focus more time on the wifey crap, just because I like to keep a nice home.
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It sounds like we're all in the same boat. I work my FT job M-Th 5:40AM-4PM. I'm dead after that. Fridays during the school year, I sub, usually 7-3. Summer I work at a preschool like 8-2:30, but it takes longer to get home. Sundays I work 7:30-1 at the preschool for church services. DH works Mon-Fri 6:30-3:30.
SO, I will cook, clean, etc Friday nights- Sunday afternoons. DH usually does the dishes Mon-Thurs but I will do them sometimes too if I feel up to it. One weekend night we usually go out with my family for dinner.
Mon-Thurs we either eat leftovers or DH cooks something easy. He always cooks mac and cheese for himself. Some nights, seriously, I'll have cereal and he'll have chef-boyarde.
I've gotten some good pressure cooker and crockpot recipes that should be fast, so I'm going to start making them on Sunday nights and have leftovers for the week. Some of the real simple ones I can make on a week night also.
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Oh-- a definite fall back for easy dinners is whole wheat tortillas, black beans and rice. (add cheese if your not vegan.) I do that a lot.
Also, tofu's pretty simple if you eat it. The night before, put it in the fridge wrapped in paper towels pressed between two plates (with something on top of the top plate) to press out the water while you sleep. In the morning, put it in a bowl of sauce (we use teriyaki a lot) to soak the flavor while you're at work. We you get home (or DH) stick it in an oven dish and put it in the oven for an hour.
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When I was getting home at that time, I usually got up in the morning and did some dishes/cleaning, since DH was already gone and it was easier to do without him there. DH cooked every night, which only worked out for a couple months before he said he couldn't take it anymore. We learned to come up with some quick meals that could be prepared ahead of time, like crock pot meals. But I'm not a vegetarian so no help here for meal ideas!
Since then, my schedule has changed so now I get into work super early and get out earlier. It made our lives a lot easier, since DH no longer felt like he had to handle all the dinner duties. Buuut now that means I have to clean at night
I would suggest doing a little bit at a time every night, so it doesn't build up over the week and leave you feeling overwhelmed. Get really organized, so you can put stuff away quickly and things will stay neater that way.
Heres for a good laugh:
H: "i dont have any more white socks that are clean"
Me: "Take them out of the laundry bag and wear a dirty pair or dont wear any at all"
LOL
I get home at around 630pm M-F as well, so I will take laundry to my parents to do, or go there on Sat and do laundry and food shopping. Cleaning comes in between somewhere. I will get up at 6am and wash dishes and straighten up. I usally am doing things at 11pm at nite! <sigh> I dont really cook during the week cause H works till Midnight, so i wont cook for just me.
But H always tells me - to relax and rest and it will be there another day lol
I work 40 hours and spend 20 hours a week on my commute (an hour in each direction.) I made lots of meals on Sunday and froze them. He's home two hours before me so he's been cooking. I am slightly OCD so I can't sleep without an impeccable home, so that's probably why I've been so grumpy lately in the mornings. I am lucky to have help from my mother who finds joy in laundering her children's clothes. All of our honeymoon clothes was washed, ironed and ready to put away in less than a few hours.
My go to veggie meal always involved beans. Bean burritos are the bomb.
i'm in the same boat. H has a 9-5 job and gets home by 6:30 every day. i have a job that is theoretically 10-6 but is really more like 10-8 plus blackberry time. so i usually get home at least 2 hours after he does. he does all the cooking so there's dinner waiting for me when i get home at like 8:45. i have been trying to alter my schedule so that i start at 9, and can get home a little earlier, but thus far it's not working so well. this also means i get home even later if i want to do something crazy like go to the gym.
i typically spend one full day of the weekend cleaning, unless we have social plans on both days. dusting, vaccuuming, swiffering, washing sheets and towels, cleaning the bathroom. this usually starts only after we have spent a few hours picking up, because he leaves his crap everywhere despite my attempts to train him.
it is kind of emotionally stressful because it hink about how my mother's house was always spotless despite us 2 oblivious kids. she would work a full week, cook all the meals, and then clean all weekend. i feel like i shoudl be able to do the same thing, since we have no kids and only 600 square feet to keep clean! i feel like a bad woman because despite my efforts the house is never clean and we've been there 3 years but it's still not "done."
incidentally, i am psyched to see that so many of your husbands do a good chunk of the cooking. thank goodness they are able to see that it's not just the woman's job!
Yummy very easy vegetarian meal: Tempeh and tomatoes
Chop up some garlic, throw it in a small skillet with a tiny bit of oil. Cut up some tomatoes, put those in the skillet as well with some sugar and a little bit of water. Cook to preferred mushiness. I like really mushy.
Take those out then throw some slices of tempeh in the pan with a little bit more oil. Sprinkle some soy sauce on them. Cook a couple minutes.
I eat this over rice.
Easy peasy and takes maybe 10 minutes.
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Oh girl, I feel your pain. I get home M-F around 7 or 7:30 after leaving at 7:30 am and I never have energy to do much other than pass out. I basically leave the big cleaning stuff to the weekend, pick up throughout the week and leave it at that.
As far as cooking, I'm a big fan of cooking on the weekend too and freezing/storing in the refridge for the week. I don't have any recipes though! Most of what we make has some sort of chicken in it, and frankly I suck at cooking so it's probably inedible for anyone other than H and myself lol. Keep your head up!