WDYT? Same names...

Dar080808 · July 2010

A girl I know from high school had a child last year. When he was about 2 months old they found he had a heart problem and didn't make it through surgery. She is now pregnant again and having a girl this time. She plans on using the same name that she named her son, just a slightly different spelling. Does this seem odd to you?

loreen122 · July 2010

Yes, yes it does.

MelissaSue81 · July 2010

That is WEIRD.

LauraBeth1401 · July 2010

I can see someone using the first baby's name as part of the second baby's middle name. DH's cousin did this when her first baby passed away, she used his first name as her second baby's middle name. That I can understand. But anything more than that might be a little weird.

LadyRed7 · July 2010

Yes. Especially because they had to have a funeral for her.

We struggle with the same thing if a match fails, since we have names picked out.

MoxyMissi · July 2010

I would be afraid that it could make the new baby feel like a "replacement" child later in life.

Honeydew1894 · July 2010

While I can see the sentiment, I would not do it. Since the baby died, it is just too morbid. I could see maybe using the same first letter or using it as a middle name, but I am just not a fan of naming people after other people in general. Odd!

prncsstp · July 2010

Yea - I think using the same first name is weird - this little girl should be her own entity, not just living as a replacement child for her brother... but if it was the middle name, thats more like a memory, you know? - i think thats far more acceptable

miketherdswifey · July 2010

MoxyMissi:
I would be afraid that it could make the new baby feel like a "replacement" child later in life.

miketherdswifey · July 2010

MoxyMissi:
I would be afraid that it could make the new baby feel like a "replacement" child later in life.

tjmartin07 · July 2010

MiketheRDsWifey:
MoxyMissi:
I would be afraid that it could make the new baby feel like a "replacement" child later in life.

I agree

jenafish31 · July 2010

I agree, very bizarre.... give the poor girl her own name.

ArcticFox · July 2010

I guess it depends on the name, but since this is a girl and the first was a boy, it might work, although you would think it would be a constant reminder of the first child.

Mrs.AngelaA · July 2010

I find it hard to judge since I have never been in that situation.

Dar080808 · July 2010

I think she got some hype from all this because she just said she's going to make it the girls middle name instead. Her and her FI also have tattoo's remembering their son (his name is tattoo'd on both of them). Although I haven't been in this situation, I would think from the little girls perspective that I was a replacement for the son her parents lost.

Mrs.AngelaA · July 2010

Dar080808:
I think she got some hype from all this because she just said she's going to make it the girls middle name instead. Her and her FI also have tattoo's remembering their son (his name is tattoo'd on both of them). Although I haven't been in this situation, I would think from the little girls perspective that I was a replacement for the son her parents lost.

Her perception of this is all up to how her parents raise her. I am willing to bet that they are caring people by the reaction to the loss of their son.

Mitzzi23 · July 2010

I couldn't do that. I think a middle name is a nice gesture.

Dar080808 · July 2010

Mrs.AngelaA:

Dar080808:
I think she got some hype from all this because she just said she's going to make it the girls middle name instead. Her and her FI also have tattoo's remembering their son (his name is tattoo'd on both of them). Although I haven't been in this situation, I would think from the little girls perspective that I was a replacement for the son her parents lost.

Her perception of this is all up to how her parents raise her. I am willing to bet that they are caring people by the reaction to the loss of their son.

They are caring and I'm sure they will love their daughter just as much as their son. It's just not something I would do.

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